Sleeping too much

Oh God @Former-Member

I understand that you need to be with your parents right now but those ^rs^h^l^s of your brothers need to get out - you can't help them and their selfishness is epic - and yes - I know they have MIs but still - you can't help them

But I am so worried about you - so many triggers - and you Mum - I read that she fainted while you were posting - but my computer needed to reboot and I didn't get back to this until this morning - so I have read all that has happened since then

You know - I am sure - that there is all sorts of help to keep your parents at home with the help they need - and if your brothers weren't riding that gravy train you Mum and Dad would probably manage - with help - without all of this extra sh^t from your brothers

What you are doing is above and beyond - yes - I walked out on my mother after she snarled at me the last time - and Dad did step in from time to time when he was alive - but Mum really had it in for me - I think she was scared of me -

But your mum has cancer - and we all have to pass on - and it seems that this can't be done with any grace atm with all these brothers and about your Dad

Yeah - he is in his happy place with his dementia - which is not a safe place eating mouldy yoghurt and then - all that seriously out of date medication -

You can't do all of this Tawney - it's too much for anyone

I just want to be supportive - I want to be honest and level in what I say - I can see you need yourself to help your mother right now and cranky as she is - but those brothers have to go and I have no idea what can be done about them

Keep letting us know what's happening - we are here for you -

Hugs

Dec

@Former-MemberThe cruel jibe from your bro is just his pain. Below the belt and can only draw pity or revulsion. You already know that. I knew you needed to stay a little longer. Blank the bloomin baby bros out of your mind heart til you get away.

i know @TAB has the capacity to be a bonza bloke.

Its too simple to say get out of a bad situation .. then your choice .. you stayed in it .. more heart is needed.. its also hard to know how to care about family unless one has really tried.

Keep taking care of business @Former-Member Your way .. and when you are ready .. the highway.

Sorry @Former-Member didnt see your posts well wasnt tagged ..er I never meant anything close to what you said re brother, I just meant that he sounded 'affected' re flopping on bed, or wherever . that so was not what I meant and would never occur to me re what you said. Anyway, you'll work it out hopefully re staying leaving etc

..true for the first part @Faith-and-Hope but not answering was cos hadnt seen posts, still, may have done what you said. Sometimes its easier/better to walk away, there's such a thing as 'too much advice' .. Well you shared it @Former-Member ..and yes, concerned for you

@Appleblossom that's your opinion. My family dynamic when I went home wasnt remotely similar. I had no part to play there, that was made obvious to me. In my case removing myself was the right thing to do. And I was not saying oh I did that in my situation so you should too . My brain does work on more than a black and white one size fits all level hopefully

Thinking of you @Former-Member

@Zoe7 @TAB @Appleblossom @Decadian

So good at giving @Former-Member support.

It would be more difficult for accepting support wouldn't it @Former-Member

if we were all sitting there and drinking coffee staring at you. But your ability to cope with your strange brothers is....truly good.

We are here for you @Former-Member and here is a nice rug : doona to wrap arond yourself. I washed it before I wrapped it around you and it's very fluffy and soft.....

PP

The limits of B&W thinking has huge ramifications .. glad you take it seriously. @TAB

it takes a lot of courage to share about family and rejection without just blame or dissing family.

What @Former-Member is doing is important.

Families are pretty unique like individuals .. even tho we can all see similarities too.

Hi @Zoe7 Must look for a better pic for my profile ... one day .. not today.

Hope you are ok @Former-Member

This is one on my computer I saved for you last year @Appleblossom .... 💗💕

Not apsaying you have to use it, just wanting to share it with you ,...

Will look at it later @Faith-and-Hope

I guess I have an identification with @Former-Member re even relating to brothers with extreme MH.

and an identification with @TAB .. especially when he was homeless when joining forum

feeling bruised & battered .. we are all rubbed raw ...

thanks for all support.