Sleeping too much

Oh @Former-Member, I have the Flu

how are you today ??

Mums cat trying to smooch and won't get msg I'm allergic lol

Get well soon @Shaz51 ... lots of @Former-Member chicken soup for you ... ❣

Hi @Former-Member .... well done, prioritising morning tea with your cousin .... something that means a lot to you .... and then accepting that your sis couldn't tweak her day around your changed plans ... if something had to be bumped to fit in something that meant more to you, then better it was that ...

Your sister seemed to take it cheerfully enough anyway .... and you don't owe her anything other than the cordial politeness you would show anyone .... you're right when you said she could have come to visit at your mum's knowing you were there as well. You're a Trojan, but maybe let some things ride .... don't knock yourself out trying to accommodate everybody ... you are just as important as anyone else, but looking after you comes first.

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Hi again @Former-Member-girl ..... 🌷💜

I had a messy day today .... wifi issues ... ❎ ....running late for a lunch commitment .... ❎ .... cos I went for a walk ....✅ ... and none of the kids got up and dressed to go .... ❎ .... 😡

WH has come crashing down with a bad cold .... ❎ .... can't exercise .... ✅ .... so guess what ? He's barely eating .... ❎ .... 😡

MIL is at the lunch where a rellie spent all day cooking for us ... hardly eats herself .... ❎ ... and tells the lady she hasn't eaten for three days (not true .... but did "diet" for three days) in anticipation of the lunch .... ❎❎❎ ... wtf ?? ... you have to starve yourself for days so you can go out for lunch with someone ?! This all drives me crazy ... but you can see where WH's e.d. has come from .... 😡

Grrr .... maybe I should have posted this on Worry Room thread .... but anyway, finished with my big vent .... 😔 ... and there were some ✅'s in there too ....

Gone to bed early and am doing online jigsaw puzzles ... @Former-Member put me on to them .... everybody else inside watching TV. Yeah ... probably a bit on burn-out today .... S2 has been coughing the last three nights in the bedroom next door, but his cold is passing ... coughing was less last night.

Was raining here today. Temp was still around 10deg tho, so not too bad. Nothing planned tomorrow. Will try to get in a walk, but basically just chill .... that's the plan anyway ....

G'night / G'morning .... lol .... ❤️💕

Hi @Former-Member

It's okay to vent about your family - in some ways it seems funny in a soap-opera way - but a lot of my comments came from my toxic relationship with my mother - I should explain

She abused my bro and me when we were small - physically - and then she abused me verbally and emotionally until I got married - and her tongue really c ut - and when I was young I really struggled with that and things like being hit over the back of the head with her high-set engagement ring - ouch!!!! because I was in a bad-mood apparently - actually I think I was reading the newspaper while I ate my breakfast

She was constantly criticising me and giving me orders on how to live my life - and she contradicted herself so I went on living life as I saw fit - but burned out - like 40 years ago now - and after that I started ignoring her and left the family for increasingly long periods of time - and during those times I would have the phone banged down if I rang, if I went to their house I had the door slammed in my face and any mail I sent was returned unopened

And that voice went on and on - and the only thing I could do was stay away - and my heart would break - but I would not stay there and listen to her carping about my life -

After Dad died she snarled at me to "get outa here" - she was in care and TS had all the POAs - so I didn't visit for about 2.5 years - give or take - but wrote every few weeks saying I would like to see here and giving her my phone numbers - but in all that time I never heard a word - and TS tried a guilt trip but she had been reading my notes to my mother and had not got in touch with me so where was her duty of care?

I did see her before she had the stroke before she died - she couldn't talk that day - and I just sat with her while she cried - but what was I to do. My heart had broken years before and I had to protect myself from her - and if she was bad when Dad was alive - she was poisonous after he died

So I probably said the wrong things to you - basing my messages on my own experience - family knows family -

I forgave my mother - over and over again - and released her at the end - but she ripped my heart apart over and over again and I could not and would not tolerate that

As a child I was honest and obedient - but rebellious

Sorry Tawney - I should have been more polite -

Dec

@Former-Member Wonderful @Former-Member

I have just read about your trip down south to mar n par. While I was going in the opposite direction on choo choo trains.

Such Courage & Tenacity & Devotion

So proud of you. We do it becasue we love even when it seems hopeless and upside down.

My brother said it was better I didnt see him at Forster .. I knew he was underestimating the time and volunteering his angry estranged wife's driving skills ..

So I just keep on keeping on somehow .. enlisting in & creating worthwhile things to do .. even though there is no visiting.

Both of us back home .. so glad to see ya forum sista.