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Sleeping too much
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Re: Sleeping too much
Thank you @Decadian, for your kind words, I actually feel that you care which is really lovely.
Still not finished cleaning, ready for my son, gonna have to shift to 'boxing it away for later, unfortunately, and doing basics - dust, mop, washing & cook. Oh yeah, might have a shower and analgesia as my lower half really hurts (you know what that's like Dec). .
Attacked the back veranda today, tidied it up, all my furniture and reno projects. Saw the biggest, fattest, blackest Redback Spider today than I've ever seen in my life. I was moving bricks so dropped one on her, poor thing, but they're too venemous to have around the house.
Rang my ddil specifically tonight to wish her and her family a happy Christmas (we hardly ever talk). Still feels she's 'cold' with me but my son tells me there's no issues or problem and I should learn to reassure myself (grr). I through out three feelers tonight with no takes. She's sweet and all, about other topics, but it seems to me that she just doesn't want 'a relationship' with me - I'm just Tims mum 😞 Hohum, what more can I do? I have also deliberately kept out of things with them - to give him the best chance without my MI spoiling it for him. Its been very hard as HE IS MY FAMILY (which he doesn't 'get' yet).
You know, its hard to put into words, but being here with my 'forum family' has given me strength, through connectedness, strength to handle the many people in my life who hurt me, often by neglect, without trying. Here I have a voice, and you're nice to me and, gosh I'm teary saying it, and I really really must hank you, you hear my heart. xox
Still not finished cleaning, ready for my son, gonna have to shift to 'boxing it away for later, unfortunately, and doing basics - dust, mop, washing & cook. Oh yeah, might have a shower and analgesia as my lower half really hurts (you know what that's like Dec). .
Attacked the back veranda today, tidied it up, all my furniture and reno projects. Saw the biggest, fattest, blackest Redback Spider today than I've ever seen in my life. I was moving bricks so dropped one on her, poor thing, but they're too venemous to have around the house.
Rang my ddil specifically tonight to wish her and her family a happy Christmas (we hardly ever talk). Still feels she's 'cold' with me but my son tells me there's no issues or problem and I should learn to reassure myself (grr). I through out three feelers tonight with no takes. She's sweet and all, about other topics, but it seems to me that she just doesn't want 'a relationship' with me - I'm just Tims mum 😞 Hohum, what more can I do? I have also deliberately kept out of things with them - to give him the best chance without my MI spoiling it for him. Its been very hard as HE IS MY FAMILY (which he doesn't 'get' yet).
You know, its hard to put into words, but being here with my 'forum family' has given me strength, through connectedness, strength to handle the many people in my life who hurt me, often by neglect, without trying. Here I have a voice, and you're nice to me and, gosh I'm teary saying it, and I really really must hank you, you hear my heart. xox
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
talking to my baby bro now .. he phoned from germany
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
Ohhh @Appleblossom
How is your baby bro going 
Hello @Former-Member, @Decadian, @Former-Member
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
coming to from an op
flying tonight bak to Sydney
..
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Sending hugs @Appleblossom
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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Pretty upset after half hour on the phone .. not because he is dying but because he has been so manipulative with having lots of flights and parties and holidays with him all at the centre of things and I introduced him to the family .. when he was saying mean things about my mother .. but then turned it around to make sure he had been the receipt of lots invitations ... I invited him to everything of value .. he took it all .. and elbowed me out.
My music camp in northern NSW was going to be near .. where he has been taking kids holidaying and meeting my aunt & uncle .. and entertaining my sister and mother etc .. anyway I guessed it was going on behind my back .. but my children and i were robbed of our own family .. now triggered
Probably just some primal panic
let it go let it go
The damage done to all the relationships has been great ..when i tried to set up all the bonding
doing some music
breathe yeah breathe
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Ohhhhh @Appleblossom
I wish i was there to give you a hug my sister friend xoxo
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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Just told my son ..
Thank you @Shaz51 I havent had a real hug in many
I had a 12 year tradition of extended family holiday camps .. he came twice ..
he took it up .. but excluded us .. conveniently forgot that he had NEVER invited us... conveniently set up close to 2 elegant arty farty rich .. rellos whom he had never met til he was in his 20s and I introduced them .. but they didnt bother to include me and my kids either .. even did the monoply camping with his son .. which I had started with our 3 kids ..
but none of our 3 kids were invited .. at least that was fair .. anyway .. mildly said that they always catch up with J&J every year .. and drops in that another auntie thought this ..
He had alienated his adopted family whose name he took .. and then sucked the life blood out of his biological family .. turning people aginst each other ..
The female 2nd wife of my uncle liked to do the dirty flirty with my brother .. no such buzz with me .. I guess. its not really personal
They will be in the region where my music camp will be .. but I do not want to have a token 2 days with him now that he is dying .. without my son .. when the whole reason I started the holidays was for closeness for all the family .. not for me or .. just the spoiled predatory rich kids.
I am sick and nauseous .. I feel so disgusted .. but also sick of being manipulated by him and the big C word ..
My son .. just said .. "I see .. " In a way its no surprise .. but it hurt to hear it on the phone.
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Unknown userMember
Re: Sleeping too much
😞 @Appleblossom, does this mean your bro is too busy to have time with you after all you've done? And how can he be so manipulative being so very sick, wheres the energy behind it all? it boggles the mind. Is there someone behindcyhe scenes perhaps influencing him. Are you gonna have some time with him? Are you strong enough to just rock up with bottle of drink and stop for quick visit? Have you told him what you'd really like?? Some people ate so thick! Hope you've settled for the night and get some sleep. This is 'family' time of year so hard when they hurt us without trying 😞 feel for you. Someone post a pic of a big group hug xox
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oh dear @Appleblossom, I see you're angry (with good reason) - "arty farty rich .. rellos". "dirty flirty second wife"
You don't need these people in your life. Here's another hug xox And another one for your son xox (hes got'em pegged). We're here, and I for one really value your company 🙂
You don't need these people in your life. Here's another hug xox And another one for your son xox (hes got'em pegged). We're here, and I for one really value your company 🙂
