Sleeping too much

Do the comments of your past bother you in a particular way? @TAB 😊

Hi Tawney, just read your message about sleeping to much and been alone, omg it was like i wrote that, i totally understand as i am the same..i could sleep for weeks and no one would realise if im alive, guess thats the worst part of been alone..so alone it hurts so much. Thank you for sharing and i now know im not the only one going threw this . Does it ever get better? Sorry its my first post today as i just joined. Hoping your ok now. 🙂

Nobody NEEDs to know anything about me or us as adults I WANT to know how my son is and what he's up to, i love him, let him into my heart. Love makes us take an interest in people - a WANTING / NEED to have them as part of my life. Even if they were once a part and left a hole. But it takes two to grow a healthy relationship. My son for instance no longer NEEDS me, in any way it seems, but he does sometimes remembers our history & like you @TAB, gives me a call or time to let me know he hasn't forgotten and i still values a place for somewhere in his life. All the wanting in the world can't make him give more than he wants to. Its what or who we value or prioritise that determines quality time together and disclosure risk.

💜 @Former-Member..that is true.

Many years ago a friend said, W are all social beings'...it resonated with me, & I did think of it today...it's to the level of our own capabilities, circumstances, influences etc that this unfolds in friendships.
There are all kinds of friendship too. 😊

@Former-Member .... so right .... 😘 ..... ❤❤❤

Hi @SC22 .....

Welcome to the forums ..... sounds like you really relate to @Former-Member's situation ..... and probably @Decadian's too ....

There are parents on the Carers forum lamenting their children wanting to sleep all day .... it's not just for us older ones or people who live alone ..... but you're the ones who really have to step up in terms I self-care ..... and the rest if us never know whether we will land in the same situation sometime too ....

Whatever you share we are privileged to be listeners and learners to ...., you might not think it means much, but it does ..... it really does .....

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@Former-Member I hear and feel for you as I too have 2 adult kids who don't need me nor I think love me, nothing can stop the pain in your heart knowing your own children don't even care to visit or call , I feel like I was just a womb I gave life to two children at a young age , did everything for them always told them I loved them because I never got it from my parents except abuse, so I gave all I could , I haven't seen my son in over 15 years his now 26 and my daughter who treats me like I'm not even worth anything .. Omg this story' is to long to write but I will continue , I wanted to let you know that your not alone in this situation it breaks shatters our hearts , I was treated very badly as a child abused by my mum & dad they married me off age 14 to a creep I disliked him so much he abused hit me for 10 years until I left ( my daughters dad) now my daughter treats me just like him ... He has the money to give her that I don't , I'm just unworthy and .. I feel like everything I did to give love support gave so much my young years to now be treated less than a mother , alone 😞
Sorry I'm to shattered today my first time on after calling help line a wonderful Counciler got me onto this site . Please stay strong we both have to and know your worthy of love 💗💗💗 xxx

@SC22, hello, welcome to the forums, so glad you feel less alone now connecting here and were brave enough to write a reply. You're definitely not alone, there's many on the forums here who struggle with this. @Former-Member comes to mind. And it does get better with making a few changes, not easy but worth it. And then you fall on your face buy learn fast the longer you stay down the harder it gets to get up. I learned a long time ago that two days withdrawn was enough, 3rd day i have to get out the house and or DO SOMETHING toward living, moving, engaging, creating, interacting, discovering... Only you can do this. Routine helps. Ring someone, anyone once a day. Go somewhere, anywhere outside the house, re engage activities that once energise you. Notice the little things - especially the wonderful ones and smile and let the energy from that feed your soul.

Also, get the physical causes of lethargy & fatigue reviewed by a GP, read the SANE information fact sheets on depression etc. Wish Loneliness was listed as the Health Problem it is - how to manage it etc.

Keep getting to know the forums and people here. I have changed a lot since being here, really come out of my inner shell and feel more confident facing the world. This has made sleep less, live more.

You'll get there CS22, look forward to getting to know you.😴😴😧😩😟😒😞☺☺😜🙌💞

Hi and thank you for acknowledging me on this site, I am just trying to have a cup of coffee after waking late but after your reply now I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate the response 💗 I have a HUGE story , so much to say that I honestly do not know were to start 🙈🙈 I will do this on a new discussion when I will introduce myself properly ,atm I'm just digesting everything , but trust me I have also tried everything I mean EVERYTHING to the point I'm even exhausted myself to the ground . I only now just wanted to THANKYOU for making me feel I'm not alone . I will post very soon more about me . Until then big hugs and thank you ever so much 💞💞 xxxx

@SC22, sorry, our last two posts overlapped. Thank you for kind words and empathy. Lets try check in here with each other once a day and maybe other discussion threads you like, get to know each other better, feel connected, smash loneliness out of the water Talk to others like @Faith-and-Hope, @Appleblossom, yes @Decadian, actually, theres not too many of us living alone, they'll come. Maybe we can start a discussion thread for that lol

Check in a bit later, see if ya still around.
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