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Sleeping too much
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Re: Sleeping too much
Hi @Former-Member, you give enough, I'm learning not to expect too much. Do feel it when @Faith-and-Hope, gets busy, she spoils me a bit.
Hey, are congratulations in order for you two? Promoted from "Senior Contributor" to "Community Guide" ?? Don't understand all that & Boo hoo, feeling left out, lol, You both do contribute a lot more than me, I'm guessing that's what its about. Well done!!
Glad you got to get away and having a good time. Keep moving forward - proud of you.
Quiet day here, lots of rain.
Hey, are congratulations in order for you two? Promoted from "Senior Contributor" to "Community Guide" ?? Don't understand all that & Boo hoo, feeling left out, lol, You both do contribute a lot more than me, I'm guessing that's what its about. Well done!!
Glad you got to get away and having a good time. Keep moving forward - proud of you.
Quiet day here, lots of rain.
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Unknown userMember
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I know what you mean @Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hope spoils us all a bit but I know she's ALWAYS got your back.
I was going to share with you that I think I'm just going to have to accept that I will always have crisis days in my weeks and I'll always have depression in my weeks with a few ok days as well. I'm not sure how this works in the real world yet but I'll see. I really do feel quite deeply when you go down, I always hope it's not for long when you do but you have shown me more than anyone that this is a cycle. That sometimes we can pull ourselves out and sometimes it beats us for a while but there is always an ok time somewhere too where the achievements happen and the sun shines for a while. I guess I have learned that my mood greatly affects the way I interact on here too. I'd like to find a bit more even. Sometimes two days seem like a lifetime.
On Friday I was feeling really wobbly and insecure as I was missing my Monday appointment because of the public holiday. My therapist negotiated that I could contact her if needed over the weekend but I've survived without having to do that thank goodness. Once I got away I have mostly been ok, not good but not going under, just holding my own.
My wish for you is that you find a formula to deal with your family that helps you find some distance when times are tricky. I did agree with @Appleblossom the other day when I thought your psych would offer you more support with your situation. I wish I could share mine. She is really lovely. I was also surprised that you couldn't find more support through your church friends to help with the heavy work you have to do. I keep wondering if you could access a social worker to help you find some of those solutions. Maybe you could call the sane helpline to see what is available in your area as far as a social worker to help you find solutions for some of the jobs you need help fixing in your house.
Anyway take care @Former-Member. Thinking of ya💜😊🤗💐
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Unknown userMember
Re: Sleeping too much
Don't worry about me @Former-Member, well, I should talk - I worry about you sometimes, but truly, I somehow get by. Just go to bed when its all too much, too much, and the rest levels things out. I wish my son came this long weekend. Gosh, I was driving all over the countryside on my days off at his age, it takes a lot of energy not to get angry & bitter in my heart, and to not take on board the negative messages perceived from people who should matter. I appreciate that you wish me well with my family. I have lost hope it will resolve but give it to God and open to change.
Not sure if assessing mood swings on the forums can be all that accurate. It has been interesting when you have commented there seems to be a cyclic thing with me. Sometimes it doesn't seem to fit. Hard to assess oneself. I just get tired and lonely, but only I can change that. The forums help, and my faith and a touch of escapism.
I've had a recent plummet in 'care factor' don't care what people think, if I do or don't turn up for things, if my friends see a huge messy house, if I sleep all over the place, if people don't understand... ... I just don't care, and I'm not stressing so much or guilting. Just a weird place of rest. Can't explain it really. Nothing matters, but not in a depressive way.
Rambling on, I'll stop.
Not sure if assessing mood swings on the forums can be all that accurate. It has been interesting when you have commented there seems to be a cyclic thing with me. Sometimes it doesn't seem to fit. Hard to assess oneself. I just get tired and lonely, but only I can change that. The forums help, and my faith and a touch of escapism.
I've had a recent plummet in 'care factor' don't care what people think, if I do or don't turn up for things, if my friends see a huge messy house, if I sleep all over the place, if people don't understand... ... I just don't care, and I'm not stressing so much or guilting. Just a weird place of rest. Can't explain it really. Nothing matters, but not in a depressive way.
Rambling on, I'll stop.
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Unknown userMember
Re: Sleeping too much
Hey @Former-Member
Well I'm heading off to sleep now. Catch you soon. I hope you sleep well when it comes for you💜😊💐🤗💤😴
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Unknown userMember
Re: Sleeping too much
Thanks @Former-Member, you too, we'll get there 💜🌷
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
Good morning @Former-Member @Former-Member .... 😊
Beautiful sunshine here this morning ....
I feel steamrolled .... physical reaction to the most recent emotional chaos I think .... but I'm gonna try for a river walk this morning. D1 might come too. It's only a few more weeks and she won't be under our roof any more ....
I saw the dolphins when we were driving across the bridge on Sunday .... first time I have seen them from the car ❣
Thinking of you both. Safe driving @Former-Member. It was good to catch a few of your posts and hear that you have managed to relax for moments and enjoy the weekend. @Former-Member is it still raining today ? Still have images of your peaceful garden in my mind ...
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Unknown userMember
Re: Sleeping too much
Hi @Faith-and-Hope, beautiful sunshine today, it was a one day rain event as forecast and D1's garden looks happy. Achievements help us feel good about life. Sorry you're feeling 'steamrolled' (flat), you have had a lot going on i guess & yes, our emotions do take it out of us. Guess you will miss D1 but i hope she doesn't move too far away, but there's plenty of tech helps these days. Its when the youngest leaves that you feel it most. Empty nest (nobody warned me about that, ouch!)
I noticed you and Teej are 'community guides' now. How did that happen? I've wondered for a long time why you didn't already have that title. Better.
I wasn't able to log in all day, think the new mobile has a bad virus so dug up this old samsung - so far so good. Needs a new battery. Has to be plugged in to work so can't come on long atm.
Went on fb last night and saw mention of S1 (by his F-MIL) and photos of them out canoeing. Happy for him but don't know why he doesn't tell me when i ask him what hes doing or planning for long w'ends etc. He's dad was very secretive too and it hurts more than is rational (makes me feel left out or rejected or replaced i think - maybe a bpd reaction I'm burning lots of energy reigning in today - my problem not his). Happy for him though that unlike me he's living life to the full. And glad he has company and seems happy. Don't want to spoil it for him. When i tx him Sunday asking what hes doing his reply was "taking shelter from the rain atm" And of cause my sister pokes in on his fb. It triggered me so deactivated fb, again. Social media isn't good for my mental health usually.
Laying around too much. Not sure if i'm unwell in body, mind, spirit or just lazy. Found a blueberry muffin in the freezer, (yes!) so just had that for brunch with coffee, yum.
ChFr asked me to visit but often can't face her gient aggress frightening dog and the drive out of town in the street where i often drove both my kids to visit their best friends. Makes me sad so I just avoid it a lot. God is cruel making my only such friend nearby be in that particular street. There's so many other roads around. She doesn't understand. Nights are particularly hard. Can do it but learning to know when particularly vulnerable to the triggers.
Sorry i hide out in this thread a lot. Bit selfish i guess but its all i can manage most days.
I noticed you and Teej are 'community guides' now. How did that happen? I've wondered for a long time why you didn't already have that title. Better.
I wasn't able to log in all day, think the new mobile has a bad virus so dug up this old samsung - so far so good. Needs a new battery. Has to be plugged in to work so can't come on long atm.
Went on fb last night and saw mention of S1 (by his F-MIL) and photos of them out canoeing. Happy for him but don't know why he doesn't tell me when i ask him what hes doing or planning for long w'ends etc. He's dad was very secretive too and it hurts more than is rational (makes me feel left out or rejected or replaced i think - maybe a bpd reaction I'm burning lots of energy reigning in today - my problem not his). Happy for him though that unlike me he's living life to the full. And glad he has company and seems happy. Don't want to spoil it for him. When i tx him Sunday asking what hes doing his reply was "taking shelter from the rain atm" And of cause my sister pokes in on his fb. It triggered me so deactivated fb, again. Social media isn't good for my mental health usually.
Laying around too much. Not sure if i'm unwell in body, mind, spirit or just lazy. Found a blueberry muffin in the freezer, (yes!) so just had that for brunch with coffee, yum.
ChFr asked me to visit but often can't face her gient aggress frightening dog and the drive out of town in the street where i often drove both my kids to visit their best friends. Makes me sad so I just avoid it a lot. God is cruel making my only such friend nearby be in that particular street. There's so many other roads around. She doesn't understand. Nights are particularly hard. Can do it but learning to know when particularly vulnerable to the triggers.
Sorry i hide out in this thread a lot. Bit selfish i guess but its all i can manage most days.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
Hi @Former-Member
Not selfish of you at all ..... and I would call it restin here, rather than hiding ..... deal yourself a hand of cards at the table Hon .... you belong .... not hiding .... no need to hide ....💕
Beautiful sunshine today for D1's garden .... we need rain and sunshine .... enjoy .... ❤
" Achievements help us feel good about life." ..... yep ...... ✅
Feeling a little less steamrolled emotionally .... D3 called TAFE today .... and they have said she can do a re-sit .... whether that is in time to pass Yr 12 or not i will leave it to the school staff tonargue out with them ..... am foin to refuse to worry about it .... and just breathe .....
Yes, will miss D1, but we are close in soirit and at least for now they intend to stay local. Feel for you so much with your enpty nest .... have you considered working with recovering birds and animals ? i know soneone whi used to nurse baby kangaroos when their mothers had been lost to traffic on the roads but they hadnt outgrown the pouxh yet. Does that appeal ?
The CG thing is very new .... wasn't too sure at first so really appreciate your vote of confidence ...... ❤💕
I'm getting something a bit similar to your S1 from my S1 and DIL ..... see them more, but am definitely being held at arms length and excluded from much of their life .... but it's shared all over FB ..... and I don't look ..... can't do anything to change it so I just hold them in prayer ..... it hurts if I think too much about it .... so I keep my thoughts distracted from that direction ....
"Laying around too much. Not sure if i'm unwell in body, mind, spirit or just lazy." ..... just call it resting your spirit @Former-Member .....
you are carrying a lot of emotional baggage to process out yet .... and you have been very physically active .....
Please don't be so harsh on yourself .... I'm guessing that's your morher's voice somewhere in the background as you were growing up .... and you can let that go ....
Hear my voice instead ..... you are beautiful .... you are enough as you are .... you are worth gold ..... ❤💕
ChFr's street might be God giving you an opportunity to slowly, gently, de-sensitise yourself .... are you able to overwrite the painful and triggering memories with a very beautiful association with that area instead ? Would you consider holding a beautiful Memorial Day at your friend's house with beautiful flowers and balloons ? Just a thought for you .....
Sending you love and healing .... ❤💕❤💕❤💕
Not selfish of you at all ..... and I would call it restin here, rather than hiding ..... deal yourself a hand of cards at the table Hon .... you belong .... not hiding .... no need to hide ....💕
Beautiful sunshine today for D1's garden .... we need rain and sunshine .... enjoy .... ❤
" Achievements help us feel good about life." ..... yep ...... ✅
Feeling a little less steamrolled emotionally .... D3 called TAFE today .... and they have said she can do a re-sit .... whether that is in time to pass Yr 12 or not i will leave it to the school staff tonargue out with them ..... am foin to refuse to worry about it .... and just breathe .....
Yes, will miss D1, but we are close in soirit and at least for now they intend to stay local. Feel for you so much with your enpty nest .... have you considered working with recovering birds and animals ? i know soneone whi used to nurse baby kangaroos when their mothers had been lost to traffic on the roads but they hadnt outgrown the pouxh yet. Does that appeal ?
The CG thing is very new .... wasn't too sure at first so really appreciate your vote of confidence ...... ❤💕
I'm getting something a bit similar to your S1 from my S1 and DIL ..... see them more, but am definitely being held at arms length and excluded from much of their life .... but it's shared all over FB ..... and I don't look ..... can't do anything to change it so I just hold them in prayer ..... it hurts if I think too much about it .... so I keep my thoughts distracted from that direction ....
"Laying around too much. Not sure if i'm unwell in body, mind, spirit or just lazy." ..... just call it resting your spirit @Former-Member .....
you are carrying a lot of emotional baggage to process out yet .... and you have been very physically active .....
Please don't be so harsh on yourself .... I'm guessing that's your morher's voice somewhere in the background as you were growing up .... and you can let that go ....
Hear my voice instead ..... you are beautiful .... you are enough as you are .... you are worth gold ..... ❤💕
ChFr's street might be God giving you an opportunity to slowly, gently, de-sensitise yourself .... are you able to overwrite the painful and triggering memories with a very beautiful association with that area instead ? Would you consider holding a beautiful Memorial Day at your friend's house with beautiful flowers and balloons ? Just a thought for you .....
Sending you love and healing .... ❤💕❤💕❤💕
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KurraSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
Hi @Faith-and-Hope
I think it's called recharging your batteries. 😀💕💜💕🎶🎶
I think it's called recharging your batteries. 😀💕💜💕🎶🎶
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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@Kurra
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