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I am concerned about our children @soul 😶 have seen psycologists and they are not too concerned at this early stage.

Oldest (12) is to some extent insulated as he has an intellectual imparement so once somthing is over he just moves on and forgets, (at least at face value). He does though blame me for all of mummys problems. When ever she is upset he thinks its my fault.

Second (9) is waiting for the day that 'I get sick of mummy and send her away' his words not mine. He has been in the sulks for the past coulpe of weeks and told me tonight that mummy is not right again so understands her moods. My concern for him is that he is a lot like his mum was at that age. (I believe there is a genetic component to this mi ) so need to monitor it and get him support as he needs it,

Bub is still too young, definitely more of a daddys boy as I have done more with him but doing ok at the moment.

Trust you can get some sleep @soul Will be thinking of you.

Seems like you were listening to me more than me you though, sory about that :face_with_rolling_eyes: thank you also.

That must be really tough on you @Determined. As parents we want the very best for our kids. I was concerned that my kids would have a warped perception about relationships because they saw no warmth between me and their father - whole other story.

Then with my latest relationship, they know there was some abuse but have been insulated pretty much not having known him at all or lived with us.

You certainly have a lot on your plate. I guess all you can wish for is some happiness and love for everyone in your family.

Hi @Anony18, sorry if we have kept you from sleeping. A bit like a soap opera huh?

Now I really must try to get some sleep.

Thanks @Anony18 how are things?

Night @soul

Trust tomorrow goes well for you, will be thinking of you. Would love to hear about your children some time if you dont mind 😊

No you didn't keep me awake @soul. My thoughts and anxiousness are. I think all our lives are a soap opera to some extent. I know mine appears to be, especially the past month. Do rest well and I hope you get some decent shut eye.

@Determined - I am trying to keep my head above water. It has been hard today compared to the previous few and I am concerned it will only go downhill from here on. Just read your post about your children. It must be tough having to hold it all together and as a parent I know you want what is best for them. Do make sure you look after yourself and practice self care. It's definitely easier said than done.

Hope things improve for you @Anony18, been thinking about you also, it must be so hard not knowing what is going on and what is next. Trust you can get some answers soon and that things improve for you.

Have you any idea yet when you may be able see your partner?

Thanks @Determined. It is really difficult and more so as the behaviour is really out of the ordinary. I do hope I get the answers soon enough. Am prepared (somewhat) for whatever the outcome may be. As much as I want to stick by him and support him, I can only do so if he lets me and communication is the big factor here.

Have no clue yet. Trust me I have been reaching out persistently with no response to date which baffles me. Hope he doesn't drive me to go beyond the lines and responds really really soon.

Am off to bed @Determined - thinking of you. Hope you get a bit of decent rest xx