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Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame

TheVorticonSenior Contributor07 July 2019, 8:03 am AEST

Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame

I seem to struggle a lot with feelings of 'liking' and 'caring about' in certain relationships.

For example, I might like someone and want to talk to them, but that's bad because I shouldn't want that, so I have to police myself to not talk to them which makes me upset, which is even more reason to be ashamed by the intensity of the feeling which I shouldn't even have in the first place.

Does anyone else understand what I mean?

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MaggieSenior Contributor20 Oct 2019, 6:07 am AEDT

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@TheVorticon I’ve just read through your thread. To say it resonates with me is an understatement. I have nothing at all helpful to say, other than you are certainly not alone in the struggles you are going through.

Sending warm thoughts.💜

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TheVorticonSenior Contributor20 Oct 2019, 6:36 am AEDT

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Thanks @Maggie, though I'm sorry to hear that you relate to this stuff. Warm thoughts back at ya. 👍

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor20 Oct 2019, 4:38 pm AEDT

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@TheVorticon Hey TheVorticon the positives about having medications are that I have my family back without the meds there would be no family. That is huge for me. I am now able to function like a rational human being in society (well have a veneer of rationality so that I fit in superficially). I appreciate my care team and all the work they put into helping me get 'better'.

It is my family however which is the big card which keeps me taking the meds and seeing the docs as there are so many draw backs being on medication that without having a loving family I can see why people with a mi would give it all up. Love peaxx

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TheVorticonSenior Contributor21 Oct 2019, 2:05 pm AEDT

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That's great @Bunniekins, I'm really pleased that your family make it worth it. 🙂

I decided to email my psych to see if he'll clarify something before I decide to stop. The next problem is that he takes forever to reply to emails so who knows when he'll have time or be bothered.

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor21 Oct 2019, 6:32 pm AEDT

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@TheVorticon Hey TheVorticon are you thinking of stopping meds?Oh I wish I could .... I think my pdoc would report me to the police and have me taken to hospital by force.... I am kind of stuck where I am atm. Let me know how it all goes. peaxx

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TheVorticonSenior Contributor21 Oct 2019, 7:31 pm AEDT

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@Bunniekins nah I'm not stopping any meds.

Hope you've been having a good day.

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TheVorticonSenior Contributor25 Oct 2019, 6:24 am AEDT

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@CheerBear I figured I should just write about it in here. Thanks for asking.
Psych hasn't replied, which is part of the reason that I feel like I need to stop seeing him. I just can't do this.

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CheerBearSenior Contributor25 Oct 2019, 6:29 am AEDT

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Oh far out @TheVorticon. I think I'd be right where you are in feeling like I need to stop. That seriously sucks.

Do you have another appointment with him?

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TheVorticonSenior Contributor25 Oct 2019, 7:23 am AEDT

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Thanks @CheerBear, I feel like I'm being ridiculous by being so affected by him taking ages to reply so it helps to hear that you might feel similarly.

Nope I don't have an appointment set. I'd have to email him to ask for one. :face_with_rolling_eyes:😢

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CheerBearSenior Contributor25 Oct 2019, 8:44 am AEDT

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I know it feels ridiculous @TheVorticon but you're not alone in feeling it. Last week I SOSed my psych of 7+ years who really has never let me down. I turned dark and twisty-ish when it took some time for him to get back to me. By time I'm talking the whole of one day 😏

Ultra tricky for you having to ask for another appointment given what you're going through with this.

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