Loneliness

@Former-Member I replied to you again earlier but my post seems to have disappeared. No idea why. No indication from @Former-Member s that there was a problem. Sorry but I'm not able to repeat it all now. Had some tips about dealing with loneliness and having boundaries with family members. Wondering if you saw a notification about it?

lots of hugs @Former-Member , we arehere for you my friend xoxo

Hey @eth
Sorry not sure what happened earlier, I found your post an approved it 🙂

-LouLouMagoo

Hi @LouLouMagoo is it possible to retrieve it somehow? EDIT : thanks I can see it now.

hello @LouLouMagoo

@eth Yes, I just saw your reply

@eth I just saw your missing reply, we have much in common. I am so blessed to have a close bond with my son, and that he feels safe to express his feelings with me. That did not exist in my family, so I have changed a generational pattern there. I need to remind myself how huge that is and not be so hard on myself. Before he went to work yesterday, we had a chat. I told him that he doesn't have to perform at optimum level all the time, it's OK to just get the job done rudimentarily when he's feeling low. Just get through the shift and to catch any negative self talk and gently shoo it away, that is self care. He came home and said he actually had a good shift, helped a lady configure her new laptop and she complimented him. It shows him not to judge things based on a bad experience.I'm learning that too. I was confused about what NDIS could do, so thankyou for that info. I will email them today to set up an appointment and ask for assistance with social engagement. I think I'm ready to do that now, I'm also considering doing a course that would hopefully lead to work. A job would be nice, something I can manage. I could never speak to my mum about feelings, she use to call me crazy. She was killed by a drunk driver when I was 21, I had mixed feelings about it. I was devastated but I didn't really cry or grieve. I was just shut down for so long I couldn't access my emotions. It still feels like a dream really. Trauma is a complex thing.

@Shaz51 thankyou! Many hugs from me to you. How are you travelling?

Hi @Former-Member sounds like you're doing a wonderful job of supporting him. Changing generational behaviour is a huge achievement.

Yes grief can be really complicated, and happens in its own time. It must have been such a shock to lose your Mum that way. There are threads on here about it if you enter 'grief' onto the search bar.

Hope today is going gently for you.

hi @Former-Member sorry to hear your son has been suffering and you have been too on his behalf. I can hear you're very focused on & ambitious for his well being which is a wonderful thing. I had no family support for MI and underwent about 10 years of unsuccessful, & at times traumatic, treatments until I finally found my current psychiatrist who is so helpful and inspiring for me. I suppose there is a limit to what you can do for your son, like a lot of us here he may have to go through some trial and error before finding effective MI treatment. I'm sure it won't be anywhere near as long as me as you're such a source of support & wisdom. I'm sure things will improve for both you & your son in time.

Tha'ts awesome your meds are helping. Such a wonderful feeling. I'm really happy for you. Yes, even a small improvement is a significant achievement and likely an indicator of further improvement to come, at least that's my experience.

I'm having a nice weekend. I had my first week of a new job last week so was exhausted & had fun yesterday at a lovely meetup, I met some gorgeous, friendly & kind new people and let my hair down. I'd like to see them again so the awkward challenge of forcing myself to meet new people went well this time.

Hope you've had a nice weekend & enjoying your walks in the park & eating some good, healthy food. Are you organising a psychologist for yourself?