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Maybe there needs to be be some talk with your daughter about how she was during the first 2 days to bring about the response you saw. It sounds very considered and the family is supporting thier child. Maybe your daughter does not know when she crosses other people's boundaries, borrows too much or is moving a lot and over fidgety ... not sure ... just trying to help ...

Stand by your daughter, but without blaming the other child ... figure out what the behaviour is ... you might not know ... your daughter might not know or be that self aware ... maybe the teacher can enquire.

Try and be calm and not escalate ...

Sad that this happening ... but if you can sort it out quickly ... best of luck @Serenity1

@Serenity1 personally to me it doesnt sond like the girl was being rude. she may also be anxious around new people or she could have many other reasons for moving other than not liking your daughter. another thing to consider is that not every kid will get along with each other the same way adults arent friends with every other adult they see kids also dont get along or dont click but it might have nothing to do with hating someone else. by moving she could have been trying not to be rude, but i wasnt there so cant speak for a lot of things. I also agree with @Appleblossom your daughter may have some habbits that are uncomfortable for other kids. when i was in primary school there was a boy who picked his nose and wipped it on other students desks. and while no one hated him they didnt want to sit next to him either because it was gross. and while i am not suggesting your daughter is doing that exact thing she could be doing other things that she doesnt even realise she is doing that might be uncomfortable, i moved seats once because of what hand i write with being in a clash with the student next to me and our arms were always bumping, it can be completely innocent. try and do some more enquiries before deciding on a course of action. good luck.

It's good that your daughter was unfazed by it @Serenity1, there could be several things happening here, such as writing hands - having a right-handed person sitting to the left of a left-handed person causes all sorts of problems or even a lack of space sitting in the middle. Given that the teacher is unaware of your history with the previous school, the fact that she didn't bring it up may indicate that there was no issue. Perhaps you can casually ask your daughter about school, her classmates and her table buddy? This will encourage conversation without any anxiety and you should be able to find out if anything happened.

We know that you have your daughter's best interests at heart and are trying everything to ensure your daughter doesn't have the same experience as she did in her previous school. @Serenity1

I can see how frustrating that is for you @Serenity1. Maybe asking the teacher would be a better way to go, that way you aren't bringing any attention to the issue to your daughter and the teacher would be able to communicate the reasons for the move better. What do you think?

@Serenity1 I understand you are upset but i still think more investigation is needed and that is just my opinion and of course i wasnt there so may be uninformed. but 2 days is a long time for kids and you are an adult so you are approaching this form an adult brain kids often make fast and fleeting desicions and what they think is a reasonable time frame to give something a try is often very different from what an adult considers reasonable. so i dont think it was nessecarily a personal attack on your daughter. another thing to consider is that it may have literally nothing to do with your daughter at all and everything to do with the other child. some kids have speical needs. When i was in primary school and highschool and even college i would sit by myself any chance i got not because i hated the other kids but i hate being touched due to my OCD and really needed a large amount of personal space to be able to concentrate and not feel anxious. i hated people touching my stuff and i really needed to have a desk alone to not feel overwhelmed. but at the start of the year i would always get put next to someone and would always have to ask to move which would happen after a few days. if i had a single desk that was next to another desk i would move my desk to make sure there was a gap again all to do with how i felt not the other person. so there could be any number of reasons this child went to sit alone that doesnt mean that she was trying to offend anyone. just some thoughts again i wasnt there so cant be sure of anything.