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Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember29 Mar 2019, 1:42 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Feeling angry about the injustice of your loved one’s illness, frustrated at the lack of sleep, the accountability of another person's welfare. Perhaps even anger directed at your loved one for becoming unwell in the first place, these are not uncommon feelings when we are managing the ups and downs of life as a carer. In fact they are more common than we realise It's time to reinvent the way we view ourselves as carer's, to discuss the manifestation of carer's guilt in a safe and gentle space.

Join us here on Tuesday April 23rd as our Community Manager @Former-Member facilitate's a discussion around working through guilt as a carer.

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

CarmelloCasual Contributor23 Apr 2019, 7:41 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

I Feel sadness ..... I guess I just want to make things easier and better for all ....and of course I can’t 😟

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

AllanahCasual Contributor23 Apr 2019, 7:41 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Mostly sadness after the initial guilt.

being more involved would look like taking my loved one to sessions and working on their thinking styles with them. I'd also love to be able to pay for the specialist appointments needed.

I dont really have any negative input from family as I'm the only one caring at the moment about my loved one.

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Shaz51Senior Contributor23 Apr 2019, 7:42 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

what emotions do you tend to notice come up for you after the initial guilt?

@Former-Member

"why Me

"why not Me", mad, annoyed , sad , guilt for feeling that way

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember23 Apr 2019, 7:43 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Yes it really can cycle like that @au_gust , what sort of emotions do you find yourself contending with after guilt? I think the problem I tend to find with guilt is the knock on effect. I have noticed when anger creeps in (generally if I feel I have let a loved one down)... mindfulness and music, other outlets can really minimise the intensity. For some it might be sadness, anxious thoughts etc. Keen to hear your ideas 🙂

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

au_gustCasual Contributor23 Apr 2019, 7:43 pm AEST