FORUMS

Connect with people who understand what you are going through, seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.

  • 47,612Members
  • 1,358,869Posts
  • 1,400,000Visitors
Recovery Club

Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness Meditation

This is a thread about Mindfulness meditation. I encourage you all to ask questions if you are new to it, or to share your own experiences and thoughts about it.

For me, Mindfulness is an increasingly important part of my life, and one of the most effective coping mechanisms I have...

My introduction to the Westernised concept of Mindfulness started with a book called "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. It's even available as an audio book, read by the man himself. Once you get past the funny German accent and the calm voice that sounds like he swallowed a fistful of diazepam half an hour before the recording session, it's a great way to consume his words. I used to listen to it in the car on the way to work or, even better, on public transport.

Mindfulness, simply put, is making sure that you are "right here, right now". It is a form of meditation, a way of appreciating and experiencing the world around you. Forget about your past or your future. Focus on this "Now" moment that is actually the only moment that will ever exist. Observe and experience the sensations of tasting this apple, or looking at that drop of dew sparkling in the morning sun.

I have been gradually increasing my mindfulness meditation to the point where it is a major part of my every day. For me, meditation should not be about sitting uncomfortably cross-legged for 30 minutes a day at 9:30 each morning, chanting a calming mantra and focusing on emptying my mind. That doesn't work for me. Meditation is simply living life in the now, without all of the constant chatter of my thoughts and emotions distracting me, flitting around like butterflies. Meditation can be practised at any time in any place. You can be standing in a crowded noisy train getting bounced this way and that, and still be meditating.

Meditation is calmness. It energises you. It relaxes you. It increases your resilience. It improves your focus. It allows you to cope. It makes you appreciate life on so many more levels than you ever thought possible. It is the single most important wellness strategy that I have.

The whole concept of time is just about the biggest enemy of Mindfulness. It's all about the Now moment. Time as we know it so often disregards the Now moment. We're so busy with the swirling churning thoughts in our head, worrying about deadlines or possible problems in the future, or caught up in guilt and other baggage from the past, that there is no possible way we are ever going to succeed in being Mindful or truly present in the Now...

That's the whole point of Mindfulness. Calm the thoughts and emotions tearing you away from what you are doing, sensing and feeling right at this very moment.

Your thoughts will be going "I don't have time for this. There's an exam coming up. I need to put the bins out tonight. Is it recycling week? What are we going to have for dinner? I need to go shopping. Damn! I forgot to call grandma again. She must really hate me. I hope Aunty Beryl is going to be okay..." and so on and so on and so on... thoughts, thoughts, thoughts... dragging us away...

Did you even taste that strawberry? Did you even notice that you ate it? It's gone down your gullet and you forgot to enjoy it. There is a moment of pleasure in the Now, gone. And now you feel bad about failing to be Mindful, and that then drags you away from the next strawberry...

I won't say Mindfulness is an easy thing to do at first, even though it's actually the easiest thing in the world to do. Young children do it instinctively. But we have spent a lifetime becoming indoctrinated and enslaved by our inner world of thoughts, and there is much to unlearn, much inner turmoil to still, before we can naturally and easily enter a state of Mindfulness meditation, even in a crowded noisy room...

It's well worth the effort. It's a game changer...

I will structure my thoughts some more, and write further posts on Mindfulness shortly. I wrote some things about it on another forum that I feel capture it well, so I need to find them.

Also, I am now going to go for a morning walk down on the esplanade by the water, putting Mindfulness into practice. Many hugs and happy vibes beaming to you all... 🙂

65 replies

51 - 60 of 65
1...567

In response to: Mindfulness Meditation

Re: Mindfulness Meditation

Hey @GonePirate - I've had years (decades in fact) of negative and cruel self talk...

I used to know just what to say with that inner voice to do the most damage to myself. Very logical. Very clever. Very tricky...

And damn near impossible to refute. At the start of my journey to better mental health, that voice ate CBT for breakfast and laughed at my stupidity...

Now, I take a more nuanced approach than the bumbling sledgehammer of CBT, trying to crack them nuts...

I separate. I step aside. I become aware of that nasty inner voice, and my insights about what it is doing allows me to calmly observe it without the sting in those words doing me in...

I have even been training my inner voice to speak with a more civil tongue. If it starts with all those "You ******* useless ******* ****, ****" stuff, I just say "Nope. Not listening. Talk to the hand. Speak calmly and nicely. Then we can have a conversation."...

It's worked well for me so far. I'm much gentler in my thoughts to myself these days... some very vivid dreams trouble me from time to time, but the inner voice has learned to play nice most of the time...

Sending you hugs, brotherman...

In response to: Mindfulness Meditation

Re: Mindfulness Meditation

@GonePirate - I resurrected my imaginary pet parrot Cyril in order to monitor my self deprecation. These little gedankenexperiments (thought experiments) can be a wonderful tool for investigating and changing self for the better...

Cyril is not just for giggles (though that's definitely a part of it - trying to get better should be fun after all, and not a chore). Cyril is a "monitoring program" within my mind, alerting me to become fully "present" in the Now and observe what is happening with my thoughts and emotions. Cyril is a well crafted and clever parrot...

Cyril wanna cracker?

[Sqwuaarrk]

Good boy. Now remember, no poopies on my shoulder, yeah? Good boy...

In response to: Re: Mindfulness Meditation

Re: Mindfulness Meditation

I'm trying to find a guide to leaves on a stream that isn't like an old dude

all the ones ive found are like 50 - 60 year old psychs murmuring and mumbling there way into my brain

why cant they get sexy voiced ladies to guide me through this little activity

In response to: Re: Mindfulness Meditation

Re: Mindfulness Meditation

youd think being a pirate and all that a parrot on me shoulder would be helpful hahaha maybe a wobbly old wooden leg enchanted by some ancient magic would do the job ???

In response to: Mindfulness Meditation

Re: Mindfulness Meditation

Hahahaaa... perfect, @GonePirate 🙂

In response to: Re: Mindfulness Meditation

Re: Mindfulness Meditation

@Silenus

Struggling to do mindfulness meditation at the moment. I start and can't concentrate or even get my mind to shut off even for a few minutes. I start with good intnetions and end up so damn angry and frustrated.

how do i do mindfulness meditaoitn when in bad dark headspace?

In response to: Mindfulness Meditation

Re: Mindfulness Meditation

Hello, just thought I'd throw in my bit in M
Mindfulness saved me, in the middle of the night shaking in the throws of PTSD on my own - the grounding with the five senses just me & God..Mindfulness woke me up to NOTICING things without reacting. In the 'noticing' i started bewakinf throygh the fog of depression & notice there were in fact pleasant things in the world that bring me actual joy, and peace (even in brief moments of respite it has a positive ripple effect on my being). I'm lucky my therapist gave me his CD of mindfulness exercises that were short, only 5 or 10min which is all i could handle then. I copied the exercises into my smartphone so i listen & do them any time. Sometimes just hearing my therapists voice was a comfort in easing the pain of isolation. Even short exercises are useful in maintaining skills. I found & open what i call 'reflex neural pathways' that it easier to think of when under stress.

When I'm agitated its sometimes more helpful to use movement meditation. I like TaiChi but some do yoga & so many others. Some mindfulness exercises even involve walking & eating.

In response to: Re: Mindfulness Meditation

Re: Mindfulness Meditation

I found my old mindfulness CD

its got 4 activities on it

thinking of using it when I get a chance

In response to: Mindfulness Meditation

Re: Mindfulness Meditation

Hi @Former-Member - sorry I missed your post until now. That's great to hear about your successes with Mindfulness.

Sometimes all it takes is that little crack of light to banish the darkness...

And like you say, sometimes all you can manage is a few minutes here and there. That's okay. It all helps... 🙂

Hugs and happy vibes beaming to you...

In response to: Re: Mindfulness Meditation

Re: Mindfulness Meditation

Hi @Silenus

Today I am doing mindfulness by knitting and listening to relaxing piano music.

Thing is though, I can't do it for a long time. It's like I can knit a few rows, stop, get up , do something else and then go back to knitting.

That's not being mindful?

51 - 60 of 65
1...567