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Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness Meditation

This is a thread about Mindfulness meditation. I encourage you all to ask questions if you are new to it, or to share your own experiences and thoughts about it.

For me, Mindfulness is an increasingly important part of my life, and one of the most effective coping mechanisms I have...

My introduction to the Westernised concept of Mindfulness started with a book called "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. It's even available as an audio book, read by the man himself. Once you get past the funny German accent and the calm voice that sounds like he swallowed a fistful of diazepam half an hour before the recording session, it's a great way to consume his words. I used to listen to it in the car on the way to work or, even better, on public transport.

Mindfulness, simply put, is making sure that you are "right here, right now". It is a form of meditation, a way of appreciating and experiencing the world around you. Forget about your past or your future. Focus on this "Now" moment that is actually the only moment that will ever exist. Observe and experience the sensations of tasting this apple, or looking at that drop of dew sparkling in the morning sun.

I have been gradually increasing my mindfulness meditation to the point where it is a major part of my every day. For me, meditation should not be about sitting uncomfortably cross-legged for 30 minutes a day at 9:30 each morning, chanting a calming mantra and focusing on emptying my mind. That doesn't work for me. Meditation is simply living life in the now, without all of the constant chatter of my thoughts and emotions distracting me, flitting around like butterflies. Meditation can be practised at any time in any place. You can be standing in a crowded noisy train getting bounced this way and that, and still be meditating.

Meditation is calmness. It energises you. It relaxes you. It increases your resilience. It improves your focus. It allows you to cope. It makes you appreciate life on so many more levels than you ever thought possible. It is the single most important wellness strategy that I have.

The whole concept of time is just about the biggest enemy of Mindfulness. It's all about the Now moment. Time as we know it so often disregards the Now moment. We're so busy with the swirling churning thoughts in our head, worrying about deadlines or possible problems in the future, or caught up in guilt and other baggage from the past, that there is no possible way we are ever going to succeed in being Mindful or truly present in the Now...

That's the whole point of Mindfulness. Calm the thoughts and emotions tearing you away from what you are doing, sensing and feeling right at this very moment.

Your thoughts will be going "I don't have time for this. There's an exam coming up. I need to put the bins out tonight. Is it recycling week? What are we going to have for dinner? I need to go shopping. Damn! I forgot to call grandma again. She must really hate me. I hope Aunty Beryl is going to be okay..." and so on and so on and so on... thoughts, thoughts, thoughts... dragging us away...

Did you even taste that strawberry? Did you even notice that you ate it? It's gone down your gullet and you forgot to enjoy it. There is a moment of pleasure in the Now, gone. And now you feel bad about failing to be Mindful, and that then drags you away from the next strawberry...

I won't say Mindfulness is an easy thing to do at first, even though it's actually the easiest thing in the world to do. Young children do it instinctively. But we have spent a lifetime becoming indoctrinated and enslaved by our inner world of thoughts, and there is much to unlearn, much inner turmoil to still, before we can naturally and easily enter a state of Mindfulness meditation, even in a crowded noisy room...

It's well worth the effort. It's a game changer...

I will structure my thoughts some more, and write further posts on Mindfulness shortly. I wrote some things about it on another forum that I feel capture it well, so I need to find them.

Also, I am now going to go for a morning walk down on the esplanade by the water, putting Mindfulness into practice. Many hugs and happy vibes beaming to you all... 🙂

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Yes! @Silenus, it is something that I do regularly. Using mindfulness meditation has helped me cope with my chronic pain condition without opiate meds. It also has helped me straighten out some of my 'illogical' thoughts.

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Hi @GothMum 🙂

That's great to hear that Mindfulness is helping. Chronic pain can be very exhausting and difficult to live with. Opiates can help with the pain, but they can be a struggle to manage properly, and the side effects can be irksome to say the least...

Do you have different ways of meditating?

To me, it can be as simple as pruning a bush - you look and listen to what the bush is telling you, instead of just cutting loose without regard...

Hugs and happy vibes beaming to you... 🙂

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My T told me about an app called 1 Giant Mind. I'm not completley sure if it's mindfulnessness - it seems a little different to other mindfulness meditations I've tried but it is a meditation method. The first couple of times I did it were fine but then it started to make me seriously anxious.... to the point where I've stopped using it. Is this a normal part of mindfulness/meditation?

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Hi @Former-Member 🙂

My experience of Mindfulness and general meditation has been that it helps to ease my anxiety and all of those heightened emotions...

To me, it's about embracing a calm acceptance of the world, and observing and experiencing it both gently and deeply...

Huge hugs to you, and gentle happy vibes beaming your way...

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Hi @Former-Member

I can understand the issues with meditation. It took me many approaches to find something that works for me (headspace app). I used to get flashbacks or extreme feelings, indescribably. I stopped and started again and again. I did a Raja Yoga course and would often just break out in silent tears, with no direct memory. It was a difficult path. I still keep sessions short, 20min max but often only 10min or a mindful walk. I've been practicing with headspace for about 6 months now and it is starting to help me.

Take a break, take a rest, try something different, there is so much mindfulness or meditation out there - even tai chi or yoga will get you centred.

I am still at the beginning of my own journey but I am confident that it will be worth it more and more every day.

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@Former-Member brings up a very good point about meditation that may explain your experiences @Former-Member

For peeps like us who have racing thoughts, anxiety, over-thinking and all of that fun, the sudden silence of meditation can be really jarring...

It's like being put into a sensory deprivation tank to float, and all of a sudden our senses, which are used to extreme over stimulation, fire randomly and lead to a near-psychotic state of consciousness in the extreme absence of stimulation...

I've experienced that. It's weird, and takes a while to understand and get past...

Hugs and happy vibes beaming everyone's way... 🙂

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@Silenus

What is a "near psychotic state of mind"? And how can you prevent from getting it?

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Hi @Former-Member 🙂

A near-psychotic state of consciousness is just a bunch of words at the end of the day... hahaha... and perhaps not very descriptive ones at that...

I guess it's me trying to describe that "floating" state of your mind where you are not really connected as strongly with the reality around you as you normally are (or would like to be). Part of that is a state known as dissociation, which is that whole losing touch with reality or with your own concept of self. I get that during my depressions quite a bit...

Here's what the font of all knowledge (hahaha...) Wikipedia has to say about dissociation:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dissociation_%28psychology%29

Have you ever been in a really dark room? I mean pitch black to the point where you can't tell visually whether your eyes are open or closed. Sometimes, you get these little bright points of light appearing in your vision. Well, at least that's what happens to me. As far as I can tell, this is random firing of nerves or whatever, resulting from the lack of stimulation.

For me, especially when I was first starting my journey with Mindfulness and meditation, the sudden focussing of my senses on a particular thing was quite a shock. I had always been a natural observer in my life - I love to people watch or watch nature (ants scurrying, flickering flames, crashing waves, and so forth). But really focussing your full attention upon something, that was different. The thing you are focussing on can become almost "too real"... it's difficult to explain...

We are so used to flicking our senses across something briefly. Our attention spans have been getting shorter and shorter. Did you know that the average attention span of a goldfish is 9 seconds. You know, that whole "Oh look, a rock!" Swim swim swim in a circle back to the same rock. "Oh look, a rock!"...

Well, human beings have been experiencing shorter and shorter attention spans since the "mobile revolution" and the quick and superficial entertainment that the Internet provides. Our attention span has dropped from 12 seconds to 8 seconds since the year 2000...

We can hold our focus for one second less than a goldfish can...

That is, to me, a terrible thing. We should be working to improve our attention span, our focus. For me, meditation is a big part of that...

You ask how you can prevent from getting that near-psychotic state of consciousness. I don't think we can prevent it. I think rather that it is a normal state of consciousness when we really focus on something, and it is natural. The fact that we are not used to experiencing it is the thing that throws us. When we explore that state and come to understand it better, then it's not a matter of preventing it, but of accepting it...

Hugs and happy vibes beaming your way... I have a vague feeling I was talking out of my posterior for most of what I just wrote... I don't know if any of it makes any sense at all...

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Hi @Former-Member, yeah I can really relate to that. For the first 10 minutes it's relaxing and then it becomes anything but. I saw my T today and told her what had happened and she said to just stop when I feel the anxiety is coming. I'll try the headspace app you mentioned though because I'd like to be able to do this.

@Silenus it probably is related to dissociation for me. They say I have DID which apparently makes me a queen of dissociation.

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spoke with my psych the other day
finally
we did some mindfulness stuff to work on persistent negative thoughts

that inner voice sort of shit

wondering if anyone has any tips to deal or cope with this sort of shizzz
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