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Not sure what to do !!!

Not sure what to do !!!

Got a question , a problem , kind of ?? @Former-Member , @Appleblossom , @outlander , @Determined , @Faith-and-Hope , @Jacques , @PeppiPatty , @Owlunar , @Sophie1 , @Sophia1

unsure what to do as mum has been in hospital for nearly 4 weeks so far after her hip surgery and as well as having reoccurring bowel obstructions

mr shaz and my cousins think my mum is scared of going back to her house

been getting the house rearranged and sorted for her to come back home

I have been visiting her everyday and sometimes I wonder if she is developing dementain

got a transistion appt to develope a home plan for the near future , I am asking my aunty to be there with me

I sometimes think she is not ready to go home

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Ahhhhh @tyme , @Dimity

Sister in law to the rescue, taking MIL back home tomorrow xx

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Hope your MIL is OK @Shaz51 . It's good your SIL has stepped up. There's such a lot on your plate atm.

Love to you and mr shaz.

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Thanks @Dimity

MiL has lots of physical problems, pains In her back and hips , had a bit of accident this morning ended up with swollen face , bruises,after her fall , nothing broken xx

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Oh dear. It must have left her very shaken. What a relief she escaped serious injury.

I hope you have a peaceful evening and a better day tomorrow @Shaz51

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Hello @Shaz51

Oh that is so hard on all of you let alone your mother-in-law.

Mr Shaz would be more worried also.

Thank goodness your sister-in-law recognised how much that you are already dealing with and picked her up to support her.

I do hope that everyone is more cautious and slows down.

You all need time for rest.

Take care

Sophia xx

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Hello @Sophia1 , @Dimity , @tyme , @BlueBay , @Emelia8 , @Smc , @Determined , @Jacques , @Appleblossom , @Zoe7 , @Faith-and-Hope , @StuF

Ohhh my head , my mum has to be moved out of the hospital 30kms away due to it is only used for short term care

Between mum's medical team and I, we can not find anywhere for mum to stay short term in a age care home until there is a bed available at our local hospital

It is sooo hard

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It's very hard @Shaz51 to be looking further and further away. I hope you find somewhere soon. I know you want her close by.

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Yes closer will be better for the family @Dimity

And for me as I can not drive

Hello @Former-Member 😀

Saw mum yesterday, it would even be good to stay at the hospital she is at now , feeling soo sad, bad, guilty

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There's no need for you to feel guilty @Shaz51 you've always had your mum's best interests at heart and the team have assessed the house as unsuitable for her needs and you can't provide the level of care she needs ... the poor lady is simply too unwell. It is so painful to see our parents declining, despite our love and best efforts.

How is Mr shaz bearing up? Is he able to reassure you and support you?

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@Shaz51

Oh so hard for you all 😞

x x

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