Not sure what to do !!!

Thank you @StuF , @Dimity

Mr shaz and I have a tour and meeting with a aged care home which is 60kms away next week

Have not told the family yet

Maybe don't tell them before you visit @Shaz51

No point opening up that can of worms without knowing what it is like first

If it is short term stay and she is already on the lists for closer places, it might be only option. @Shaz51 One step at a time to see if anything else opens up.

Yes @StuF , that what my shaz says too

Very true @Appleblossom , yes respite care is only for 63 days at a time then you have to find somewhere else but yes one step at a time

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Oh @Shaz51 lovely

i understand my sis. It’s the most difficult thing to see - your parents decline in their health. And of course a facility closer to you would be the best situation.
i know when we had to our my mil in care we had trouble and the one she went to was an hour away.

im sorry you’re going through so much. I really feel for you all. And it must be hard for hubby too.

Sending you loving hugs xxxooo

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Thank you @Zoe7 , @Determined ❤

Thank you @BlueBay , I knew you would understand xxx

And I need to do what is right for us all

@Shaz51

🙏♥️ You do what you need to do for your mum to be cared for and comfortable. Don’t worry about other family members. She’s your mum. And you are a fantastic daughter. Xxxxx

Hi @Shaz51... I've been off for a little while, thanks for keeping me tagged in.

Because my Mum and Dad were urgent admissions to aged care, with going home really not being an option, we didn't really have to work through "where" decisions. Dad was already in a local (to them) home for respite, he was looking happier and healthier than we'd seen him in ages, and since they had spaces available, it made sense for both of them to move in there permanently. But Mum found it hard... she never had the option of going through the house and choosing what she wanted in her room. My sister and I picked some things to bring in that we hoped would make her feel "at home", and she'd give us lists of other things she wanted to try to find in their house.

It really was for the best for them. I hope you can find somewhere where you can be confident that your Mum is well cared for and happy. xx