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Not sure what to do !!!

Not sure what to do !!!

Got a question , a problem , kind of ?? @Former-Member , @Appleblossom , @outlander , @Determined , @Faith-and-Hope , @Jacques , @PeppiPatty , @Owlunar , @Sophie1 , @Sophia1

unsure what to do as mum has been in hospital for nearly 4 weeks so far after her hip surgery and as well as having reoccurring bowel obstructions

mr shaz and my cousins think my mum is scared of going back to her house

been getting the house rearranged and sorted for her to come back home

I have been visiting her everyday and sometimes I wonder if she is developing dementain

got a transistion appt to develope a home plan for the near future , I am asking my aunty to be there with me

I sometimes think she is not ready to go home

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Re: Not sure what to do !!!

I hear you @Shaz51 . Do you think they are trying to 'protect' you in waiting before they tell you things? It's a lot that you are already doing with your mum.

In terms of your mum's future discharge, has anything been put in place yet? e.g. safety assessments, respite arrangements?

I'm here tonight if you need a chat. I'll be around for a bit longer.

At this time, just hold tight. It may be all you can do at the moment.

tyme

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Maybe true xx @tyme

One assessment was done , waiting for the builder

Not sure if they will keep mum in until the changes are done or not

After today I have the feeling that mum is on the fence of coming home or staying in hospital

With arrangements options I say yes please but mum says no , I will be OK

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Re: Not sure what to do !!!

I hear how hard change is for anybody, let alone the elderly @Shaz51 .

I feel that unless they have experienced the benefits of help they receive, they will always say no?

I don't have enough experience to know what you can do in that case.

Sitting with you,

tyme

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Me too my @tyme all new to me

Thank you for sitting with me

I think communication is the key as well xxx

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Re: Not sure what to do !!!

@Shaz51

Yes, communication and transparency is so important - both with your mum and with services. This helps everyone to be on the same page in providing the best care of your mum as well as fitting in with what you need.

All the best,

tyme

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Very true @tyme

And also what @Jacques said , I need to remember my and Mr shaz needs too

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Hello @tyme , @BlueBay , @Faith-and-Hope , @Emelia8 , @Determined , @Jacques , @Former-Member , @moderator

.mum is home , finding it harder to get around xx

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Re: Not sure what to do !!!

Thinking of you and family @Shaz51 🙏

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Re: Not sure what to do !!!

Well mum's appt today

Is trying something to help her or it will have to go back to hospital on the weekend

@tyme , @Determined , @BlueBay , @Emelia8 , @Faith-and-Hope , @Former-Member , @Paperdaisy

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Hugs @Shaz51 ,

tyme

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