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The Fear of Dying Alone

The Fear of Dying Alone

Hi everyone,

I am new to this forum.

I am 24 years old and I have struggled for a long time with depression, anxiety, body image issues, and OCD. It has at least 12 years now that I have struggled with it. This has meant that I have struggled to develop friendships and I have missed out on a lot of opportunities.

This has lead to my greatest fear, the fear of never having a partner. I have never had a girlfriend, I am a virgin and it pains me greatly. I was in hospital 7 times over an 8 month period and part of this was due to the fact that I may never have a girlfriend. I also have crippling body image issues which means I never look in the mirror. The pain is exacerbated by the fact that I am the only person in my family over the age of 18 who is not in a long term relationship or married.

My problem is that I don't know how to get out more as I am struggling to find things to do. Does anyone else have the same problems as I do because it seems like everyone is finding it easy to get into relationships except me? Am I doing anything wrong?

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@Ali11

Now I have the stupid radio station showing just how out of touch they are with the world. My god it does my head in.

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Yeah, the radio world is really a bubble isn't it @Former-Member? It must be frustrating as an artist to hear some of the stuff on the radio now. Do you have any plans for the weekend?

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Hello @Former-Member

I hope you are doing alright.

I have read a fair bit of this thread and am shocked that you got so few responses. To me you seem like an interesting intelligent thoughtful guy. (I am old enough to your mother, but still interested in young people....in general.)

I think it has more to do with the way the computer algorythms work than the actual intent of the members of the forum. Mods any chance getting tekkies in to look at the real STRUCTURE of the forum, rather than neat little addons or details.

The tagging feature can ... be helpful and allow choice ... in that you choose you to contact ... but it also seems to clog up the airwaves ... or discussion boxes.... or latest

@Former-Member I had no idea you had posted all this here. I totally agree you had a reason to be disappointed in Headspace, not fair or professional IMO to leave it so long to inform you were not in their program. Mind you that werent great with my son either. My son likes Aurelius too and went through a Jordan Peterson phase ... even if someone is not perfect, it can still be helpful to check them out and talk about the issues.

I have no idea why you are struggling to get a girlfriend. I find it hard being on the other side of the male female thing.

I have met @TheVorticon and @Hope4me before. Years ago when I first joined the forum I would go through and diligently check every post and made sure they wree answered. In the end I simply could not keep doing that.

I dont feel the need to defend the forum or the mods or the community. Its important to me to keep my independence. I am just a renegade old mum .. who loves it when her son started guitar playing Daytripper ... funky riff that one.

Take Care

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Hi, @Former-Member I've been reading your post for some months now, on and off. Sorry I dont have the answer. I feel life is so full of unanswereds and its frustrating. I can only share my thoughts as I anguish for my daugther, she is 22 and so beautiful physically and emotionally, but she has social deficits, that leave her with no friendships or relationships. I think she may be asexual, just not interested in partnering or even having a relationship of the companion or romantic kind. Her vibe and body language gives her a radius that people steer clear of. But she is the most loving gentle and sweetest person I know. She is so confused with the social aspects of connecting with people. I do hope you find peace and solutions in your endeavours. I'm sorry I dont have the answers, wish I did.

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@Dark_Olena @Appleblossom @Ali11 @Hope4me

Sorry I've been away for so long. There have been things that have been difficult.

I was just in a five month relationship that has just ended. I got cheated on. I also have intimacy problems that make me feel like a little boy. I'm no man. I'm pathetic.

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Hello @Former-Member

Good that you had some experiences, not good they turned sour. Intimacy touches on the most vulnerable part of us. That is the nature of it, so do not be too hard on yourself, as you lick your wounds and recover. Personally, I was very open due to aspects of my chidhood, but now older and wiser I am very wary about starting relationships. A part of me would love to be loved, but other parts, doubts there is the right person. I still try and stay socially active and connected though, as being too isolated is not good for my head.

Take Care

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@Appleblossom

Sometimes I wish I could tell the future just so I know that I won't die alone. I want to be loved

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Hey it has been a while. I was wondering if there is anyone here i can talk to? Nothing in my life has changed on this front unfortunately

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I seriously wish i was dead

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still no one has responded and no responded to my complaint either why not

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