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The Fear of Dying Alone

Unknown userMember13 Mar 2019, 6:10 pm AEDT

The Fear of Dying Alone

Hi everyone,

I am new to this forum.

I am 24 years old and I have struggled for a long time with depression, anxiety, body image issues, and OCD. It has at least 12 years now that I have struggled with it. This has meant that I have struggled to develop friendships and I have missed out on a lot of opportunities.

This has lead to my greatest fear, the fear of never having a partner. I have never had a girlfriend, I am a virgin and it pains me greatly. I was in hospital 7 times over an 8 month period and part of this was due to the fact that I may never have a girlfriend. I also have crippling body image issues which means I never look in the mirror. The pain is exacerbated by the fact that I am the only person in my family over the age of 18 who is not in a long term relationship or married.

My problem is that I don't know how to get out more as I am struggling to find things to do. Does anyone else have the same problems as I do because it seems like everyone is finding it easy to get into relationships except me? Am I doing anything wrong?

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Unknown userMember26 May 2019, 8:56 pm AEST

Re: The Fear of Dying Alone

Why do women hate me?

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Unknown userMember26 May 2019, 8:56 pm AEST

Re: The Fear of Dying Alone

Can someone please respond?!?

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mufasaSenior Contributor26 May 2019, 9:10 pm AEST

Re: The Fear of Dying Alone

Hi @Former-Member

I'm Mufasa, currently moderating Sane. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling quite upset tonight, it's a difficult question to answer because nobody here knows you intimately as this is an anonymous service. However I'd like to think that women do not hate you, finding the right person is so hard and sometimes it can certainly get lonely or feel like it's impossible to meet that person who can see you the way you ought to be seen and understood.

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Unknown userMember26 May 2019, 9:54 pm AEST

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@mufasa

It seems to happen easily for everyone else in my life. Then you have the morons on radio who just show no empathy for others who struggle in this department and think it is really easy to find someone.

There are men out there who are misogynsts and just dowright stupid and women chase after them. It is not hard for them

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Unknown userMember27 May 2019, 8:38 pm AEST

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I am "feeling" the love and support here

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Ali11Senior Contributor27 May 2019, 10:30 pm AEST

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Hey @Former-Member,

When you say "I don't want to talk about my music because no one cares about my music", is that an experience you have had offline? You do not have to talk about your music if you do not want to. Many artists and creatives can feel unsure about sharing their work because it is often very personal, an extension of themselves. But we are not here to judge, only to listen to what you are willing to share.

Trust that this is a safe space and when someone asks about something that matters to you, it is because they are interested in what you have to say.

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Unknown userMember30 June 2019, 8:18 pm AEST

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Hi everyone,

Sorry for being AWOL this past month. Some things have happened, some positive and some negative.

I am in a really dark place right now.

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Unknown userMember30 June 2019, 10:31 pm AEST

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I don't feel like a man at all. I hate the idea that I could be a man. I don't like anyone thinking that I am a man. I feel so uncomfortable being in my skin. I just hate it right now.

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Ali11Senior Contributor02 July 2019, 5:55 pm AEST

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Really sorry to hear that @Former-Member, has something in particular made you feel that way recently? Do you feel like sharing any of those positives or negatives that have taken place since we last heard from you?

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Unknown userMember05 July 2019, 7:00 pm AEST

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@Ali11

The lack of relationships in my life. And the lack of information of my perspective on relationships such as never having been in one and there is no advice for me out there.

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