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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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heeeyyyy my @MDT , hugs

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@MDT Hey think you are doing well. Strong enough to do business stuff and others and not affected by the job search thing. Well done. Take care of yourself. What’s for dinner?

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Not sure re dinner @Meowmy

About to take a shower now though.

You are right @eudemonism
However I do believe this is something I am struggling with generally in life. I need to balance it out with diligence. I've always seen myself as a slacker. I slack off too much and bludge. Idk. I could do more is all.

Thanks @Bunniekins 🙂

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Gday Shazo @Shaz51
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Take care of you @MDT ...

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Hey @Faith-and-Hope
🙂

Nice to see you %)

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Thanks @MDT .....

Things have been a bit busy and all-over-the-place ..... we have landed one of those pockets ..... again.

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@MDT yea I've had to let go of alot of dreams and expectations simply because my mental and physical condition has become very poor. Although i did put alot of effort into trying my best once upon a time.

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One thing I do not see you as @MDT is a slacker. You have put so much energy and time into finding work as well as your business group and volunteering when you have. You seem to have extremely high expectations of yourself and whilst that is admirable it is also necessary to give yourself a break. None of us can work 24/7 on anything and I know you already know that balance is important. It is indeed frustrating wanting something so much but it not eventuating yet ...but you do need patience and also to recognise that you are doing everything you can do - I know I keep saying it will come and that is hard to accept when doors are not opening for you but keep the faith and keep the hope - you have so much to give... MI can certainly affect our self-esteem so I will continue to let you know just how much potential I think you have and any employer would be lucky to have you buddy

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@MDT Hey, you have great strength , but one of your advantage qualities is you have insights. You will do well. Your goodness will be sharpened by time. It is not easy. Nothing of value comes easy. Take care. You are doing well.

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