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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Hi @MDT nice to hear your afternoon was better than anticipated yesterday. Wishing you the same for today. Great that you can identify current concerns being due to external situation versus previous hard times with internal stuff (endogenous) despite life being good. It sounds to me like you are quite resilient and manage to turn your mood around quite well a lot of the time.

At times of being really totally broke the library has been a good friend to me - it's free and there's nothing like a good book to pass the time and put aside the cyclic thinking and worrying for a while.

Good morning also to @Meowmy @outlander @Gazza75 @TAB

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@eth take care.

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Thanks my friend @eth

Today I feel a bit crap about it all. Just woke up.

The last thing I want to do is probably the only thing that can improve the situation - job search.

I am going to have to look at newstart as well. See what the requirements are for that. At least I will get SOME funding that I can have or even use.

I never wanted to go back on govt payments until I hit retirement. Maybe that will have to change.

I am feeling really sick of it all that it's almost comical.

All I can do is wait.

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@MDT hey hope the days out better for us all. New start would be good. At least you can have some funds. You are showing tenacity. Take care.

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hopefully yeah @Meowmy

I heard back from the recruiter just now in fact. Apparently the role is taken but they want to interview me anyway. I'm over it if I'm honest. But I'm going anyway. Just to see what happens. I think this is all too much for me to take in so I just go with the flow.


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@MDT hang in there mate. Newstart could be a good thing for you, at least you'd have a little discretionary income. Sometimes we have to bite the bullet and ask for help from the system. I am sure you have and will pay plenty of tax over your lifetime and this is part of what it gets used for. Good luck with it. Not sure if you're paying rent but if you are you should also be able to get rent assistance.

Best of luck and good management for your interview too.

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@MDT hey you are doing well. I think you may be surprised to find some good. You are growing personally. Well done.

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NOt going to go for my afternoon talk today

Feel a bit off in fact. Plus yesterday I did a decent cardio on the bike at the gym. So that counts.

Will go to gym tomorrow though to do core exercise.

Want to do very little for the rest of the day as I have done some business stuff and logistics to sort it out so that's progress I think.



@outlander @oceangirl @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @TAB @Bunniekins @BlueBay @Meowmy @Everan @Teej @Appleblossom @eudemonism @frog @eth @Gazza75 @Everan @Former-Member @Angels333 @Doglover @Sophia1 @saturnzoon @Faith-and-Hope @CheerBear @Former-Member

Taking the arvo off

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@MDT Hi Hamsolo01 hoping you have a kind and caring afternoon. Care about you Hamsolo01. peax

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@MDT

Going off all your posts. It's like you're always struggling to reach the benchmark you've or others have set.

Don't be so hard on yourself for not performing like an elite athehete all day everyday.

Try and take into account the good points of each day and your life...

Eude

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