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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Hey @Sophia1

Yes. You are right 🙂

Things won't be like this forever. Thanks for dropping in and saying what you did. You onto something.

I have been focusing on what matters these past few days. 🙂

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So I replied to an email from the interview the other day asking me what days I can work because I put part time.

I hope it's okay if I said I can work maximum of four and any day/s because my other commitments are sporadic and can be re arranged.

My mum said it sounded fine but it can be really stressful because even if something like a toe is out of line it might mean no. Anyways. I sent two as I forgot to put all the info in the first. I hope they don't view the second on its own... Now I'm anxious about it 😕 maybe I am just adjusting to meds as well and also stress and this is making me worry.

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hello @MDT

Yes possibly to your answer...

Possibly you are reacting in a usual human way...

adrenaline...excitement...anxiety...

all human emotions that each and everyone of us experience..

Trying to second guess the reaction of someone else whom you have not even met as well is nigh impossible..

been there and now tell myself stop overthinking and let it go for now as wasting my energy and making me anxious..

does thinking about it from that aspect help? or have you heard this too many times already?

I also find telling myself to give my brain a rest and not such high expectations of myself that I never have of others..

Time for me to get off of the computer waves...

catch up another time and take care...you are doing far better than you give yourself credit...

yes me too..

💜

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ps I just read back over my last response to you @MDT

as I usually edit and rewrite many...

I realised that it made no sense at all..

I was trying to refer to your sending the second email for job interview..

brain fog getting heavier.

definitely time to close down computer..

plus 2 very long calls with family member whilst responding to others in between..

rest time...

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All good @Sophia1
Nite my friend 🙂

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Here too @Doglover

Not too good lately.

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I see the @TAB is here

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congrats on your job offer @MDT I'm sure you'll hear some good news soon, try not to worry. Perhaps try to distract yourself with something engaging while you're waiting for their reply.

Before you know it you'll be more busy than you can imagine! I haven't worked for 7 years and now all of a sudden I'm utterly exhausted working 5 days last week and this week due to training schedules. Enjoy your spare time while you have it.

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Hi @MDT hope your anxiety isn't as high this morning. It's more likely that they'll see both you emails than not - all you can really do is let that one go. It sounds like you might have made the short list if they're asking you when you're available. You are doing such a good job of the job search, I'm sure something will come through. I do agree with @BryanaCamp that now is a good time to be making sure you do the enjoyable things that you will not have time for once you're employed. Maybe set yourself a time limit daily for the job search and allocate yourself some hours for recreation/gym etc.

@Gazza75 and @Sophia1 I echo your words of support. Lovely to see you @Sophia1 hope things are going well for you.

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Hey @eth @BryanaCamp

Yeah I think you are both right. Atm I am trying to fix up the internet here lol.

Hope you have a good day.

My sister tried to have a go at me before so I told her where to go. I'm sick of getting the raw end of her attitude.

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