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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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I don't think she has that kind of sensitivity @Zoe7 , she's not a sensitive or thoughtful person & has a very big personality so most things are about her (I'm much quieter and accommodating of others). It was a group email, she sent it to a lot of her contacts, I was only 1 of them & the message she wrote was that it was the best thing she'd seen all week & take a look. Nothing personal towards me. It was just something she was excited about & wanted to spread around as widely as possible.

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I look at it as she at least included you in the email @BryanaCamp and maybe some of what you have been interested in so much is rubbing off on her - any converts to conservatism is welcomed hey.

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I know how it feels though @BryanaCamp
My sister is carrying on a lot lately. I offer to help with dinner and she carries on about it. Like I've offended her. I get really sick of the way she carries on some of the time. Mums attitude doesn't help either. But anyways. I got my own world.

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Hows work situation @TAB

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Sorry I missed this @MDT um evil ‘do what I think not what I said then Ill blame you’ guy was in yest afternoon so that was painful. Hopefully 1-2 days left only. Trying to get it over with and made few mistakes plus every time he sticks his nose in is as good as add another day plus rain yest
Think may quit job when get back. Just don’t want to know about it. Money would be nice and might try to hang on for a bit more.
Not even sure what my employment status is. What is ‘fulltime’ ? Permanent? Do I get public hols etc? I need to get copy of agreement I signed

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Fair enough @TAB
I hope you can resolve it soon

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Yes by finishing job and leaving @MDT lol

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Aw geez, that's rough @MDT damned if you do and damned if you don't. Yeah, family politics sure is complicated, hard to keep people together, always seems like there's factions. That said, I live by myself and sometiems it's lonely & I wish I had family to live with. there's always pros & cons to every situation. Well, I went out for lunch with a friend & it went really well so that took my mind off my sister and cheered me up.

Hope you had a good weekend. What are you up to today?

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hi @TAB work situation sounds really difficult. You're doing a great job to get thru it. I felt the guy I volunteer with was winding me up once and got so fed up I screamed, "F@*^" at him and our boss came rushing down to see what had happened - she thought an oven had exploded or something serious. I did not look good, was not good for my rep! So just keep doing what you're doing, protect yourself and your rep as much as you can. Don't lower yourself to his level, rise above.

Yeah there are a few public hols coming up - Good Friday, Easter Sat/Sun/mon where I live. So make sure you see if you get them, that'd be a sweet paid break.

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yeh @BryanaCamp politics in the family bores me though I must say..

Anyway. Just looking up stuff to apply for. My old colleague has said that if i can get three examples of jobs I could do in a year's time then we can work backwards.

so just doing that. Also hanging out for the first episode of game of thrones season 8 lol. But I don't want to watch it too early on in the day or else I'll get depressed
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