Experiences of Grief

@Owlunar Thanks Dec if I go I will think of you and your inspiring words. I am not a tough person like I might appear at times , I am quite fragile it will be a huge step if I go and a life changing one for me. I am sorry you have gone through so much grief I don't know the half of it I know but can guess which makes you giving your time to others so special. You are a wonderful person Dec xxxx

Thanks again @Bunniekins

I spent some time thinking about our choices and decisions and how they affect our lives and yes - sometimes our decisions can have consquences we would rather not have - this I have found to my cost

But there is something else in the learning curve - out of my decisions has grown something really wise - why I pick an owl as my avatar I guess -

Only the heart that has known the mighty grief can know the mighty glory

I would not change a second of my life and not because I might find something worse but rather because I would not have found the learning curve I am still on.

I know about the fragility of the human spirit - how damaged we can be and how deeply ingrained it can be - how hard it is to overcome.

I understand

Dec

@Owlunar back at you :)xxxx

Thank you for tagging me. @eth Maybe you sensed I was on edge. I will be taking time out fro forum for a bit.

@Bunniekins Good luck with your particular church journey.

Like @Owlunar I am giving up on church. I treated the forum as a church for a while.

To be honest I tried for 25 years but have had horrendous experiences ... retraumatising and bringing up the grief again and again. Not giving me credit for the years of work I had done in different fields, social justice and music.

Take Care ALL

@Appleblossom I'll miss you. Tag me somewhere if you want to talk about why you're taking a break, otherwise keep on keeping on my friend. I'll be sending you strength and happiness xx

@Appleblossom I understand that need to step away for a while but also wanted you to know I will very much miss you around here. Take all the time you need Hon and we will be here for you when you return. Sending you so much love and huge hugs Apple 💜💚💙🧡💛💐🌺🌸🌷

@Appleblossom Please Appleblossom don't be away for long.

Gotcha @Bunniekins

I came back when I had time just to post another owl

Hi @Appleblossom

I had been away from the church for a long time before I realised that it was not just that the church services were too early for a bad back to be a happy camper and now after the Royal Commission I am less likely to return

Yes - I feel as if I could talk to someone about it but then that person may already have a strong opinion they are entitled to and I am just as entitled to mine - right now I do not feel like an encounter -

Things are not too bad for me right now - just cruising - planning to visit my grand-daughter up on the Sunshine Coast in a few weeks - get away from Melbourne for a week or so - than back to our wonderful southern polar storms after the solstice

All the best Apple

Step away when you need to - I do - we all need to feel okay about it

Dec

Hey Dec - wrong pole and look at all this crap in the water 😞