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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
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LizzieLouSenior Contributor
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JB70Senior Contributor
@LizzieLou @Carlachris
we had an outbreak of the virus an hour down the road from where we live a couple of months ago. It just sort of feels surreal how the world is at the moment. It is an extra challenge when you struggle with MI in your household. One of my hubby's coping strategies is to get out of the house and go for a drive. When things like that are no longer an option it is very difficult. We played a lot of cards. 500 is our game of choice, but is better with 4 people so cribbage was the next best option. We also played a scrabble and Squatter. He really struggled on the days I went to work though.
Take care both of you 💕
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
It's awful to feel the loneliness of exclusion. It hurts. Some people will never understand. I find they are very compassionate and basic in their beliefs not being able to see further than their own self interests. So POOH to THEM. It's difficult having friendship but the ones that matter really matter and those that don't fall by the wayside. Big hugs from me to you.
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
That's a huge thing to be doing. My dear friend was the recipient of a kidney last Christmas. Complete success and living the dream from the generosity of a stranger. Thankyou from the bottom of my heart for being a doner. Love and sunshine.
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
It has hasnt it. There seems to be a shift this time more fearful. It's sinking in for the long run. We have MIL in Aged Care and the facility has been Excellent all precautions taken above and beyond for months now. One staff member cross contaminated from another facility but have since had the total all clear of entire facility. Dodged the worst case scenario. It's so tentative. Hubbie dare I say is ok but that's only because we remain Isolated at home. He is unable to cope in public. I'm hoping spring will come early. The depths of winter is too much this year. Day by day we hope will see us all through.
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Hi @Emelia8
There are others here who have been caring for their partners who are in it for the long haul. Feel free to join in here if you would like to.
How are you and yours going @Jay-e @Scoo @kaygee @Magneto
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Scoo , are you ok my friend xxx
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ScooSenior Contributor
Hello @Shaz51 @Former-Member lovely of you to check in on everyone. It's taken me a while to respond. Sorry about that. I've been suffering from migraines for weeks now so I'm either working, or have a migraine or I'm recovering from one. So my self care strategies have gone out the window unfortunately. Hopefully I will figure out why these migraines are happening and get back into enjoying life a bit more.
Hubby had some counselling with a psychologist and has been doing really well since then. CBT and spirituality seem to be working for him. Thanks to this forum I have learnt to be more patient and understanding. His mental illness will never completely go away because he can't erase his traumatic childhood but I've learnt that it makes him the unique person he is.
I just sometimes wish he could be a bit more supportive when I'm not 100% but I think he is used to me being the solid and stable one in the relationship. Oh well. That's life.
Hello to any new people who have joined the forum. Take care all ❤️
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@Scoo
Migraines = 😵😵😵 trust these abate soon.
Feeling a little reciprocated support would go a long way = hearing you.
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
So sorry you are having migraines. I suffer with cluster migraines days at a time for years but seem to have pretty much grown out of it happening. I think for me they were related to stress and hormonal changes. I still carry Imigran with me every day just in case. They are such a horrid thing. Everything has to fall by the wayside until they relent.
My husband is a mess of Paranoia and CoV conspiracy and anger at the moment and I am finding his 2 hr walks away from the house both a huge relief and also scared for him as he might not come home one day. If he is picked up by the police he will be taken to hospital and I won't be able to visit him. He has gone so far down the FB Paranoia political conspiracy rabbit hole this time I just don't know how to bring him back. The trauma of childhood will never be healed for my husband either but I wish he was able to find just a little bit of brightness in the here and now and begin to enjoy our life again after we one day come out of This awful CoV crisis. Like you I am the constant shoulder of strength. It's not easy and I don't think ever will be. Love my hubby dearly but boy I'm tired.
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