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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Former-Member , @JB70 , @LizzieLou , @Carlachris , @Jay-e , @Scoo , @kaygee , @Magneto , @Sophie1
how is everyone 
Thank you @Former-Member , my mr shaz is being very negative about everything lately
yesterday and today has been busy
yesterday a team of us (12 people painted the whole ouside of a house ) undercoat and top coat
I organised morning tea and lunch
and a lady came with a big pot of spaghette for lunch , yummm
today has been busy with shopping and washing and
even had a sleep this afternoon
with this group of people , I thought i was part of the group but after yesterday to find out that they have been talking to each other doing things through the week ect and we are/ were not included and I had to ring one of them friday night before painting
so now mr shaz is happy because it always has happened to him and now to us
sorry xxx
how are you @Former-Member and mr darcy this weekend xx
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Quiet weekend @Shaz51 had some sad news that a cousin of mine died during the week in a road accident. Got a couple of gardening jobs done and the dogs got their daily walk.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
very sorry to hear that about your cousin @Former-Member
sending you lots of love and hugs
we are going to have a very quiet week this week
and mr shaz is doing the last few tests for being a kidney donor this week
soo to support and be patient with my mr shaz xx
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JB70Senior Contributor
Hello @Former-Member @Shaz51
I'm going ok today. We just had a lovely afternoon catch up with friends. So nice to be able to see real live people again instead of on zoom. So far hubby has coped ok. Sometimes it's after such occasions that he goes into meltdown. Probably is ok tonight as he is looking forward to watching moto gp. Ohhhh the power of distraction! 😊 🏍
Hey, don't give up on your friends Shaz. Just been through a rocky patch with one of the 3 that came around this afternoon due to her crossing boundaries and not respecting me and hubby. She never talked to me for over 2 years when I told her how hurt I had been. But she seems to realise now that I won't put up with that kind of behaviour. We had been friends for over 30 years and I had never had boundaries before and it was a new concept for her. I think we will be ok. Friends worth having will love you for who you are, no matter what. Hope you recover ok from your big weekend. Nothing that energetic here. Just finished my big work week. Yayyy 😃
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JB70Senior Contributor
Sorry about your cousin @Former-Member 😢
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
💐💜 @Former-Member
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
Sorry and a hug. Getting out in the garden with the dogs good therapy.
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
Thankyou for touching base. I'm not too good today. Feeling CoV overwhelmed and a bit frightened which really isn't me. I think looking out and after Pessamistic paranoid hubby and narsacistic MIL and my own mother who is a negative person is taking its toll in lockdown. We are in country Victoria but at the very edge of the metropolitan region so lots of police blockades all around us it's all a bit confronting. Our beautiful valley feels edgy and un natural. Mandatory face masks is a good thing but also very foreign in our small town. I'm a bit worn out by it all. Day by day will be the only way. Very teary for the last few days. Nothing wrong as such just feeling the blah all around and it's freezing cold and wet. Looking forward to spring like no other year before.
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JB70Senior Contributor
@Carlachris We are thinking of you all in Vic. Hoping so much that you can all keep well. The good thing about COV lockdown is al least we can limit contact with narcissistic relies. But hubbies can be a problem that's for sure. You have a good attitude - one day at a time.
Try to keep calm 💕 🕊
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
Thankyou. That's all I do these days is work my bum off to remain calm. I am the one holding it all together and I feel myself falling but I will pick myself up and start again in the morning.
Lockdown 2nd time round is phsychologically harder for everyone. Victoria is in a dreadful headspace. We are blessed to be in the country region. Low grade depression sneaking in on mass with small business that made it through the first time falling over everywhere we look. Be prepared has gone by the wayside. Hoping hoping, hoping spring will bring with it a glimmer of hope. Too many hurting financially. Too many unable to ask for help. Day by day. Honestly.......THE ONLY WAY.
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