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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
Yes agree. It’s tricky at times. Isolation plays a large role in our life. 20 mins max in public one day at a time. We all have similar and yet very differing experiences. It’s great to talk with others. I feel supported and safe on this forum. Hope you do as well. Worn our emotions lead to more worn out emotion. Unfortunately.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Thanks @Silverfox .....
I think there is a multiple diagnosis awaiting my husband somewhere in, hopefully, the not too distant future, and a personality disorder appears to be the base cause of it all ..... but I am not a professional in that direction, and his choices regarding his future involve another person with complications in that direction too ...... the switch in value system is what has totally excluded reconciliation f
for me, but with five adult kids in the mix, one with profound disabilities, it is also impossible at this stage to simply watch him truckin' off into the sunset with "new person" ...... the pd-like effects remain and are vindictive and controlling, making legal action a big part of our immediate future .....
Owing to that lack of belief in, and support around the carer, I am also experiencing a sense of relief, believing I had done my very best to try to access help for him. When the addictions and things do eventually surface in a way that can be seen, I now won't be the one there during his treatment and recovery process.
My current task is buttoning down the hatches and trying to keep everyone safe through the sinking of our ship, and launching the life rafts in search of new land.
i am glad I stayed for the long haul, if that helps anyone else. I have a sense of peace about that.
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Unknown userMember
Thinking of you especially @Former-Member
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Unknown userMember
Thank you for checking in on me @Former-Member 💕
Hi to all the people I already know here @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 @Carlachris @Scoo @LizzieLou
Welcome @Silverfox
Sherry
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ScooSenior Contributor
Hi to you too @Former-Member
Hope you are travelling ok 🌻🌼🌸
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Unknown userMember
Hi @Scoo 😊
No ... not travelling well at all unfortunately. Hence my absence from here for over 2 weeks.
But thanks ....... 💖
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ScooSenior Contributor
Oh no sorry to hear that @Former-Member
I hope things improve real soon. Take care and big hugs 💐🥰
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @CLA
come and meet some awesome friends @Scoo , @Former-Member , @Former-Member , @Faith-and-Hope , @Determined
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
@Former-Member thinking of you.
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CLAContributor
Hi everyone. No one quite understands this life unless they’re experiencing it themselves. Thankful to connect w ppl who do. xx
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