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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
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Yikes @Carlachris
What's happening?
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
What if love and kindness, understanding and devotion just aren’t enough?
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
Husbands MI is winning. I barely exist anymore.
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MrsjonesSenior Contributor
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Is there any insight about how he treats you @Carlachris (or perhaps does not treat you)?
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
Thank you for your kindness.....but no.....I’m here for the long haul but I’m a bit lost and pushed aside by the whole thing. His behaviors have always been behind doors but now in public. We live in a small supportive town but his verbal intensity is frightening people. I feel helpless and I think have given up. FB addiction triggers him. Politics and civil unrest worldwide feeds his delusions. Love him dearly. But he’s going to be locked up or punched out and nothing absolutely nothing I can do. It’s so very hard to watch.
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Lack of social skills + strong opinions on a background of MI/ASD = urrrgghh @Carlachris .
I guess the question is can an old dog learn new tricks using methods suitable for the newish diagnosis of Asperger's?
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@Mrsjones
Christmas in the hospital = ☹️. Hoping you see improvement soon.
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
I am his security blanket. I am his everything but feeling shredded. He is never physically abusive but being an extremely high functioning academic is very cruel with his verbal explosions. One minute his lovely self.... then the next verbally attacking the very lovely managing director of his mothers Aged care facility yesterday was probably my last straw. He Told him because he is Aspergers and he doesn’t trust him he is going to prove to him he is a thief and will eventually take financially advantage of his hateful mothera as all corporate liars do...... honestly!!!!! For the first time did not know what to do. His anger is fueled by the Julian Assange thing. I have cut the oyster off today. That’s all I can think of today. We just need to get through till the 20th when he sees his phsych.
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
Good grief.... oyster.... lol.... “internet”... even auto correct knows I needed a laugh.
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