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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
In response to: Partners who chose to stay for the long haul
Shaz51Senior Contributor
hugs my awesome sister @Former-Member 
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
my uncle woke up when i touched his hand , so I gave him a big hug and a kisss , have to visit him again tomorrow xx
today we did a home assessment for mum when she gets home , some changes need to be done but looking good , we are changing the 3rd bedroom into an upstairs bathroom for her xx
mum walked through the house with the wheelie walker today, made her soo tired , but happy as I have organised a gardener to keep the gardens nice xoxo
mum is back to the hospital sleeping xx
@Former-Member, @Determined . @Former-Member , @Lost1 @Karro
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Swinging past to say hi to everyone here .....
Some of you already know that I have started with a new counsellor, cos carer’s burnout had started to affect me again. She is lovely. I haven’t had the wherewithal to start telling our story all over again up until now, but it’s sorta like pulling a tooth I guess. It’s a necessary part of finding support, and that is with good reason.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
yes I think I need someone : @Faith-and-Hope , seeing the gp next week about my burnout xx
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
It seems a lot of people are having a particularly hard time at the moment 😞 thinking of you all...
I was supposed to talk about that at GP appointment today as I am struggling at the moment but instead talked about how I can better support darling, her dad and the boys at the moment. I did however get a good lead on a potential DBT support group for darling in all of that so hopeful that it works out to be suitable 🙂
I will try again for me at my next appointment in 4 weeks time.
At the moment I am relying on motorcycle therapy for me 
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Nice that you were able to have that time with your uncle @Shaz51 and good news that something positive is starting to happen re supports for your mum.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
thanks @Determined , thinking of you lots today xx
but i am feeling sooo over it ,Imight need something to help me @Determined , got an appt on next wednesday xxx
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Feeling sooo over it... I know what you mean @Shaz51
Really hope that you can get some effective support for you in all of this... You do so much for everyone else while balancing your own health you need a break and some support of your own...
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
As with most carers it is a balancing act... we need to look after ourselves in order to look ofter others... but finding that balance is so hard. It is a case of take a break... yeah right and who is going to look after this zoo wile I am away. (and no disrespect meant to my family in that but it is how it feels sometimes).
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
very true @Determined , I just find it sooo hard tofind a right balance , or ar we xxx
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