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Writing As A Form Of Therapy

Writing As A Form Of Therapy

Hi all,

I have found throughout the course of my life that writing has been a constant companion to me. It has provided me with a way to vent my frustrations, to grapple with the eternal verities of life that confound and delight me, to explore ideas and concepts, and to try to put into words the often chaotic moods and thoughts that result from having a mind that's a little bit odd...

I have written lots of poems, especially in the last 3 or 4 years, dealing with depression and bipolar. They help me to process and understand some of the things that are happening in this twisted little noodle of mine. As such, writing has become one of my main forms of therapy.

One of the best things that I find about writing is that it can act as a kind of mood diary. I can read things that I had previously written, and it will quite often map out where I was at during the time of writing. The words I spread across the page act as signposts of my progress, too. As my self knowledge increases and my life journey progresses, I find that it affects how I write and what I write...

Often, we do not see the thousands of tiny little changes to our selves that our life experiences cause over the years. It can be very helpful to re-read old writings, in order to see how far we have come, what we have improved, where we have fallen back into old harmful habits, and the things that we have learned.

The language that we use in our writings and in our thoughts and in our speech is very important. It can reveal a lot about our selves, our states of mind, and our moods...

That language, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. I believe that we attract certain kinds of people around us, and create (or at least influence) life situations based on our choice of language. It helps define who we are as a person.

Negative thinking, self-deprecation, self-hatred, these sorts of dangerous life traps are often revealed in our choice of words. So too are the positive things. It all starts with a glass. How we describe the glass and the quantity and quality of its contents, that's where language comes into it, and it can shape our very lives and the lives of those around us.

Writing... it is my solace and my main tool of self-analysis. It is my favourite form of therapy...

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@Silenus

Oh I am so sorry to read of such unbearable experiences that you had with your mother..

so hard for a child to face ..

although different and every bit as painful for you both..yourself and @NameUnknown have opened up about such fragile..vulnerable periods in your life..

There are so many children whom have faced lack of love..acknowledgements abandonment..

..alcohol and drugs have always had such to account for leaving behind trails of so many unanswered questions..

do you have a photograph of her ..moments of mother son together time. Or a photograph of herself at a time when the love you know that you shared felt stronger?

was she fond of the ocean..the country...somewhere at some time if you wanted to..you could go with something of hers no matter how small...sit and be together spiritually...let yourself just be at one with yourself..say any words that come to mind...then follow through with what your heart tells you..helps you to say goodbye and let her go..

you of course might not want to do any of this..

an idea for you to say what you need to say to her..to bring you some peace...some self care...release you..

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my love is like a flower

it wants to last forever

but each time you hurt me again

another petal floats away in the wind

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@NameUnknownHello

I could not read your letter without getting up and walking around the house.

I am alright now. It is just that I have had many similar but different experiences. If you are interested, my story is in my earlier posts. I think it is good that you wrote down those experiences for you and to share here. I started to write to my mother during my 40s and 50s. My letters still held my love for her in the way young children removed from their parents cling to their love after the parent is gone. My mother could not read them even though I was liberal with positives for her. Her guilt stopped her and she returned them unopened. She has passed now and I have gradually needed to come to terms with the fact that she could never really see or know me, but that I do have a right to exist, in spite of her defensiveness and denial. I do not know how your life will unfold. Even in fostercare and group homes, where we are treated like herded animals, we know that we are all unique. Nobody ever really knows what another person goes through.

Please release yourself from guilt about your little friend. At 9 how could you know. Even as an adult trained in the field ... eg ambos ... it is difficult in those circumstances.

Suicide leaves the deepest marks, but find a way to survive in spite of it all.

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Hi @Appleblossom,
Sorry that my letter triggered you. I have always found it difficult to be truthful with my mum as she believes she was a good mother that has good relationships with all her children so my siblings and i let her believe that because its easier then the drama she causes when we dont but its exhausting and im afraid that one day i will just lose it and it all just come out at once

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hello @NameUnknown @Appleblossom

I don't want to say too much...

your situations are...ohh dear...just should never have been...they did

what you are doing now....writing poetry....flowerpetals and appleblossom writing a letter is what is best for you...

you are what is important in this...not your mum or others...

you..

write away as much as you are able to....read what you have written and release the pain if it comes ...

the events that have happened will not change...

how you feel about yourselves can change...you can banish any feelings of guilt or self hatred that have no right to be there...

you are children of this universe and have every right to be... to love yourselves also...

I truly feel for you

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@Appleblossom,
I would like to read your story just can not locate the post

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@NameUnknownDo not worry about triggering me. It was good triggering. When you know that it is truth.

My story is in bits all over the forum, but the basics are:

From 6-10 I was a ward of the state, living in various homes, fosters, grandparents etc and returned to my parents.

Gradually 2 other siblings were returned and my mother gave birth to another child with my father and he died a few months after her birth. So my mum had it really tough being widowed trying to integrate a family who had endured separation and trauma during those separations

I was old enough to remember most of it and so I took it on board very seriously, was raised to be responsible for siblings, and to try and impress the welfare so that they would be returned. I would never have dreamed of being disobedient, but eventually sensed that mother was NOT WELL and not good for me and left home fairly young at 16.

I never regretted leaving home. It was necessary for my survival.

Defensive mothers are very difficult to deal with.

Take care @NameUnknown

Mother's family was dutch ... and part of my interest in dutch culture and character. Writing things out has been very important for me to survive.

Thank you @Former-Member

Good Luck All

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@Appleblossom ❤❤

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Hugs, @Appleblossom

Naaw... beautiful poem, @NameUnknown ... right in the feels...

Hugs and happy vibes beaming to all... 🙂

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💝 hugs @Appleblossom
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