Had a bit of a light bulb moment this morning.
I have never been someone who has been goal oriented, deadlines though give a sense of urgency to getting jobs done (such as special occasion celebrations or moving house).
My desire was to have a home where I was not embarrassed if visitors called in unexpectedly, not just for a certain occasion. I did not set a date as to when I wanted to achieve this by.
I came across this article: https://jamesclear.com/goals-systems and realised that a system is what gives long term results which is what I found with the SPACE acronym that I probably bore you all with it, especially with the containerising 😁.
I think I now need to find a system that works for me to help me keep our home clean, not spotless.
@Former-Member , I don't think we need to be minimalists, although I don't think we need what feels like truckloads of things that end up weighing us down. For me it was more about having order to the things we have, being able to find items we want to be able to use, actually using and enjoying the things we have, not having to climb over other things or move things to get to things ...
Back to goals and systems, in the aforementioned article James writes:
"Imagine you have a messy room and you set a goal to clean it. If you summon the energy to tidy up, then you will have a clean room—for now. But if you maintain the same sloppy, pack-rat habits that led to a messy room in the first place, soon you’ll be looking at a new pile of clutter and hoping for another burst of motivation. You’re left chasing the same outcome because you never changed the system behind it. You treated a symptom without addressing the cause.
Furthermore, goals create an “either-or” conflict: either you achieve your goal and are successful or you fail and you are a disappointment. You mentally box yourself into a narrow version of happiness. This is misguided. It is unlikely that your actual path through life will match the exact journey you had in mind when you set out. It makes no sense to restrict your satisfaction to one scenario when there are many paths to success.
A systems-first mentality provides the antidote. When you fall in love with the process rather than the product, you don’t have to wait to give yourself permission to be happy. You can be satisfied anytime your system is running. And a system can be successful in many different forms, not just the one you first envision."
(@Determined , you might like this article for other reasons)
