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Topic Tuesday // Tues, 26 April, 7pm AEST // Grief

NikNikSenior Contributor02 Apr 2016, 1:22 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // Tues, 26 April, 7pm AEST // Grief

Dealing with loss: Myths of Grief

As carers grief and loss can come to the surface for many reasons:

- A sense of loss of the life we thought we'd live

- A sense of grief for what our loved ones are going through

- A sense of loss for the life you wanted for your love one

During this Topic Tuesday, we look at managing loss and the myths of grief. We'll be joined by two guest speakers from Compassionate Friends Victoria.

Join us from 7pm AEST

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Unknown userMember26 Apr 2016, 7:04 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Tues, 26 April, 7pm AEST // Grief

Thanks for sharing @awe and @And-016 - for each of you, I am sure that was such a significant and difficult life experience to have walked though. It is great you have found The Compassionate Friends which I imagine would be a great way to give back to others who are struggling in a similar way.

I do want to address @Fatima's question from earlier today. But first I wonder if first you could share with us, what is the difference between loss and grief, and when can loss lead to grief?

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Unknown userMember26 Apr 2016, 7:06 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Tues, 26 April, 7pm AEST // Grief

Hi @Shaz51 *waves* 🙂

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And-016Contributor26 Apr 2016, 7:06 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Tues, 26 April, 7pm AEST // Grief

When people think of grief the classic example is the death of a close family member, or a partner or a close friend. At The Compassionate Friends, we Support Parents and Siblings after the death of a child in their family. But we realise that grief extends far beyond these boundaries. People experience grief whenever something significant is taken away from us. The loss could be a person, a relationship, a pet, a hope, a place, our health, another's health, the carefree person we once were, a dream, a sense of safety or one of many other losses. Often there are multiple losses.Anything that changes in our lives as a result of the loss is a part of our grief process. Often we suffer a loss and don’t realise that we’re experiencing grief.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor26 Apr 2016, 7:08 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Tues, 26 April, 7pm AEST // Grief

Hi @Former-Member

I totally agree @Heartworks with what you said ,how do you keep it going

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aweContributor26 Apr 2016, 7:12 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Tues, 26 April, 7pm AEST // Grief

Thanks Heartworks. So many examples of loss and grief are not obvious or they're disenfranchised and not acknowledged. It seems to our members at The Compassionate Friends that "no one understands" until they talk to others who have been through a similar experience.

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And-016Contributor26 Apr 2016, 7:12 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Tues, 26 April, 7pm AEST // Grief

Yes, I agree. I didn't realise I had that dream until the person was gone.

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FatimaSenior Contributor26 Apr 2016, 7:14 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Tues, 26 April, 7pm AEST // Grief

That must have been very hard for you to watch.

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Unknown userMember26 Apr 2016, 7:17 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Tues, 26 April, 7pm AEST // Grief

And-016 I think that is definitely true that loss can come in many forms, beyond the death of a loved one. All grief is significant, regardless of the loss we have experienced.

For these other perhaps less obvious forms of loss, it can be hard sometimes to know if what we're feeling is actually grief. So how can we recognise grief? What does grief look like?

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HeartworksContributor26 Apr 2016, 7:17 pm AEST

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@Shaz51 I think, you keep going one step at a time, one day at a time amd sometimes it's ten minutes at a time. Go easy on yourself, we are all doing the best we can at all times even though we might not feel like it at the time. Set little achievable goals - that can be anything from have a shower to answering the phone. 🙂

@Fatima I think an iPad sounds great. If electronic communication is better that might be the way to go. And know you are doing a magnificent job, with compassion and much love. You need to be commended for that too. 🙂

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aweContributor26 Apr 2016, 7:18 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Tues, 26 April, 7pm AEST // Grief

Hi Mosaic. Regarding loss and grief, they say that the amount of love invested will equal the amount of grief. It's very personal. It seems that if we feel it's a big loss then we'll have more grief.

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