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I just need to share this: for the first time in so very long, today I actually feel happy. Nothing particularly exciting happened - in fact something unpleasant occurred. It hasn't taken my pleasure away. I had a picnic lunch with another mother and our children. We sat in the sun, on some grass near a playground. We initially sat somewhere else, and were moved on for being inadvertently on "private" land, but it didn't upset me. It was a simple, enjoyable time. And I feel happy. I think I'd forgotten how that feels. I feel light. This is wonderful. Wow!
@outlander she will be fine. She has more going for her then realized.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
Re: Happiness
Yes she will be with time @eudemonism
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Sans911Senior Contributor
Re: Happiness
@eudemonism - I believe Bella had strong religious views, which perhaps don't always sit easily with some, but I felt she had much love and joy to share with so many. It's a shame what has happened, and I miss her brightness. I'm not saying this to make you feel bad at all, but just my take on things.
Sometimes, we all do and say things here and real life we like to take back. One thing I've learnt from these forums in particular is that our emotions can get the better of us in the heat of a moment. When I write a reply post to someone, I read over it carefully. Several times if I have to. I think about what purpose my words might serve, and what emotional reactions might they have. If my words might hurt them further, then I change my post or refrain until I've calmed my mind a little. I hope this might help.
But @outlander's post is very articulate and well written. What's done is done, and it's time to move on. There's always some muddle here in the forums.
Take care @eudemonism.
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eudemonismSenior Contributor
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@Sans911
Yep. I'm hearing you loud and clear. Wise words which I'll be considering and taking on board.
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