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Self-Care with major Physical illnesses

Self-Care with major Physical illnesses

Hi @Former-Member This is an old post - it explains how medical neglect by Drs (doing no scans or tests) ended with me in hospital - the direct cause of my 1st emergency bowel surgery.

I have no current GP, since mine left (months ago) - will need to find one.

I have lived for several decades with serious physical illnesses (or conditions) -

Scoliosis, causing severe back pain

Sleep Apnea (diagnosed 11 years ago), causing debilitating daily fatigue - treatment & stimulant medication has moderately improved my functioning. Not to anywhere near a "normal" level, for someone without a Sleep Disorder (or a fatigue condition).

A bowel obstruction (tumor), with 3 major bowel surgeries (2 emergencies) - from which my body has never fully recovered.

My digestive system (which was disconnected for 6 months), has not worked effectively for the past 3 years - since my bowels were re-connected (stoma reversal surgery).

I also have Complex PTSD, from more than 2 decades of trauma.

Because PTSD is supposedly an "anxiety disorder" (so-called) - medical professionals have on several occasions attempted to "explain away" my physical symptoms as being "just anxiety".

This has stopped me from accessing adequate medical care, on several occasions.

The "just anxiety" was later found to be a life-threatening bowel obstruction (tumor) - which required immediate surgery. Then a 2nd emergency surgery, 3 days later (when the 1st went disastrously wrong). Then a 3rd bowel surgery, 6 months later to reverse the damage (& clean up the mess).

I now have 2 serious hernias, as a result of the bowel surgeries - wound split, extensive wide scarring, & hernias in the middle.

Have others experienced their physical illnesses (or medical emergencies) not being taken seriously - because of having a mental illness diagnosis?

How did you overcome these obstacles to receiving medical care (if you could)?

Self-care is difficult, when my food does not digest adequately - despite Probiotics & Gastrostop (when necessary).

I must run to the toilet with great urgency (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) - which is a cause of stress in itself, & makes working difficult.

Adge

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I've just received a call and have to go out @Adge

I'll be back later on and hopefully can talk with you.

Please don't be discouraged as your situation can be dealt with successfully.

Kind thoughts...

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I'm online @Adge if you're up to talking.

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@Adge, are you ok my friend xx

here for you

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@Adge

thinking of you

workplace bullying has so much to answer for..

advocate in mental health?

sorry am just out of hospital....back on operation loop..

short on words...energy..everything..

I know that you will understand...

cannot promise when will be back...am thinking of you...supporting you in heart and scrambled mind..

You are far better than the way they have treated you.

Do not forget that or let them take that away from you.

💕🌹

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@Adge I hope you are getting lots of healing sleep and that your pain levels reduce.

Sorry to hear about your work situation.

Just some fauna friends and a cuppa:

Calling

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Thanks so much everyone.

I'm still in pain, not sleeping.

Work communication Is causing further stress

Everything all at once.

This is my first time on line (even though just for 5 minutes), in several days I think.

Keep on tagging me as much as you wish (or can), it keeps me feeling connected - & draws my attention to posts.

Ask as many questions as you like, that also helps to to ground me & increase my sense of connection.

I will not be able to go back & read the dozens of posts that I've missed (sorry).

I will try to write more as soon as I'm well-rested & physically recovered.

I'm so tired, I cannot write any more now - I will as soon as I can.

My psych has full confidence in me - it's the immense strain that the physical pain, sleep deprivation, & work stress has put me under.

She says that I've survivied this much stress & physical pain before - & will this time too.

I certainly hope so (or wish to believe that).

How much can a Koala Bear?

This Bear has been put through the ringer.....

Adge

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I'm so sorry @Adge

My sis and I were talking about chronic pain yesterday and how, if you haven't experienced it, you can't comprehend its effect on your life.

So please take comfort in knowing others truly understand and empathise with this challenging situation you're in.

And, it's totally ok if you feel like falling to pieces now and then. It helps to release the pressure to keep you going.

Warm thoughts;

Hope xo

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hello dear @Adge

I feel that most people will understand your lack of energy..motivation to post on the forums..

I love the way that you put into words the desire to still have connection..

That would have been hard to write?.....vulnerable?

I am mirroring my own thoughts...feelings here...

I struggle so much to reach out for support...a listening ear from others...

I feel as though I am being selfish most of the time when I talk about myself...

Such a ridiculous way to feel when I can readily do the very same for others and not see them as being selfish in the least..

In fact I see you as being very brave...

I do agree with your pdoc....you have great inner strength..

you will find your ground at your own unique pace...you will heal yet again...

you will rise again ...stronger than before..

You are entitled to have this time to rest and save your energy for healing..

Even though I am not on the forums daily or use them as a chat style...

My forum friends whom have become so very dear to me are in my thoughts...

Know that you are supported and so very well thought of here...

A big hug 💛💚💜

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So much has happened in the past 24 hours.

The physical pain, the compounded lack of sleep (every night) for over a month.

I got the closest to having a complete mental breakdown today - in my entire life.

I really didn't think I would pull through it at all.

Tomorrow is crunch day with work - I've been off sick for weeks.

The stress of dealing with work in the meantime (still), has almost pushed me over the edge.

I must turn the corner soon, I really must.

I can't take much more, or that will be the end of me (permanently).

I'm sorry, I don't want to be a downer.

This has been so tough, I almost couldn't make it....

Adge

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@Adge

Feeling for you.

AND it is the wrong time of year.

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