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Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

s-jaySenior Contributor

Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

One of the main reasons many expecting and new parents affected by perinatal anxiety & depression and postnatal psychosis say they don’t reach out for help is because they didn't understand what was happening to them. Many don’t realise they are ill and therefore suffer for longer than they need to. Many parents, looking back, say that if they had known more and been better able to prepare for some of the challenges they might have been better able to cope.

That’s why this year PANDA - Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia - chose the theme ‘I Wish I Knew’ for PANDA Week 2018. They will be our special guests on the 13th November 2018 right here! We'll be talking about becoming a new parent and how to get help if things become tough.

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KezkCasual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

Something we all know in theory is that as a new parent, we’re about to have a huge sense of responsibility for this new family. But the reality of that sense of responsibility can be overwhelming. What advice would you give to someone about to go through this?

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ElkeContributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

@CheerBear - that feeling of disconnection is so hard. But by reaching out there tends to be a roll-on effect. What was it like when you did ultimately reach out and stop "bottling things up"?

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

Hello @Elke, @Kezk, @s-jay

sorry for being late, it is only 7-30 pm here

Hello @Teej, @CheerBear

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dani2Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

my advice is to be as kind to yourself as you would be to your best friend if it was happening to them

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ElkeContributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

This is so on point @dani2 - often when talking with parents on the helpline we will ask the question 'what would you tell a friend if they told you this?' and it really opens them up to realise how harsh we can be on ourselves when if the roles were reversed we would have nothing but care and support to give. Nice one. 🙂

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ElkeContributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

Welcome @Shaz51 - feel free to share your thoughts on anything previously posted. Although we'll be wrapping up here soon, there is still plenty of opportunity to keep the conversation going! 🙂

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s-jaySenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

Hi @Shaz51! Thanks so much for stopping by! Our last question was:
Something we all know in theory is that as a new parent, we’re about to have a huge sense of responsibility for this new family. But the reality of that sense of responsibility can be overwhelming. What advice would you give to someone about to go through this?

What do you think?

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

I agree @dani2

I know it is different but it is kind of the same when I became a step mum to 4 children @Elke, @Kezk

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ElkeContributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

The loss of your individual identity can be a bit confronting for new parents – for example the sense of agency or the ability to do what you did before shifts pretty dramatically. Are there other ways that you felt your identity changed, and did you work through it?

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Becoming a new parent - "What I Wish I Knew..." PANDA // Tues 13 Nov, 7pm AEDT

my advice is to be as kind to yourself as you would be to your best friend if it was happening to them, I agree with this @dani2, @s-jay, @Elke, @Kezk
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