medication and sudical thoughts

Hello @Appleblossom, @Drac0, @Former-Member

yes @Appleblossom, my hubby has MI and is doing mowing -- self employed , it does go around with the thinking

One of them is if he sees another new mowing people mowing he wants to give up !!!

Even just that short post gives others an "in" on the topic ... I have lost many pages of my hard won insights ... but never mind ... just that we are able to discuss it is important ... nor are we catastrophising or blaming or manipulating. It is general, productive and GENEROUS sharing.

Mantras can help

"This too will pass"

"I have beaten other challenges"

Re the mowing ...

I never worried about getting a big market share of piano students in my local area ... not competitive with other teachers etc ... even gave a piano to 2 different ladies that did their own teaching from it ... now my son uses it, if you are on a viable income with newstart and can get pension soon ... maybe he can develop some other positive interests ... day at a time though.

oh thank you soo much for your comments @Former-Member, @Appleblossom

Hi @Former-Member, I received your whole message by email , thank you

and how are you today @Former-Member

Hi @Appleblossom,

thank you for your comments , we are not on mewstart , have thought about it but my hubby thinks it is too stressful for him

he wants more work when it is quiet , wants to cut back when we are busy , panics when it is raining , etc,

I totally agree @Appleblossom

I have everything worked out , so my hubby has no worries -- he is soo surprised on how much i save

in doing so , it has helped him to relax more .

I find if I positive and happy -- he is happy

Only thing I have to remember and I am glad that @CherryBomb reminds me from to time is to look after myself too

Hello @Former-Member how are you ??

thank you for your comments , how is your week going ??

Yep @Shaz51

Organised careful wives can make a huge difference. My exhusband was so overwhelmed with fancy living and "managing multi million dollar projects" he had no idea how to manage anything simple, and stressed and carried on about unecessaries. I was clear: food, health, shelter, exercise and education and a few celebrations. I worked at relaxing him on holidays etc ... but sadly other things wrecked the marriage. I wasnt a domestic goddess but I always trimmed expenses to fit the size of the cloth??? and we both have separate reasonable homes to live in now.

As a word nerd ... I find it interesting that "husband" and "husbandry" are about the practical householding issues in life ... but often its wives in the domestic sphere that do most. Not always though ...some think they are princesses, which is really pre-spousal ... if you know what i mean.

Your attitude is great. My step situation was totally different to yours .. mine did need mothering ... cant compare. Keep up the good work. Yes Happiness is infectious. Something good to catch.

hello @Appleblossom , it doesn`t matter how organised i am , things always happens everyday , I can`t plan anything , it is not easy -- sometimes i wonder if i am the mother or the wife , and sometimes i find it very hard at times

trying to stay positive is hard work

Sorry @Appleblossom, , just letting off a little bit of steam