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Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember18 Sept 2018, 8:40 am AEST

Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

For this Topic Tuesday we will have a special guest from our Peer Ambassador prorgam joining us! @Stacey_N has supported her husband for 25 years and has gone on the journey with him of being diagnosed and living with Boderline Personality Disorder. She will be sharing her valuable and honest insights into supporting a loved one with BPD.

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Unknown userMember23 Oct 2018, 7:38 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Hi @Never_Lose_Hope welcome along! That sounds like a challenging time and its great that you are helping to support them through it.

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Never_Lose_HopeCasual Contributor23 Oct 2018, 7:40 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

@Stacey_N, Why are clinicians so clueless? How damaging it must be to have a clinician be so dismissive and not even acknowledge your efforts to share your experience in the hope of giving insight into your husband's mental state and it's impacts on you as his primary supporter.

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EK1Contributor23 Oct 2018, 7:41 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Hi - I'm here as a carer and supporter for my 19 year old son who was diagnosed with BPD over 2 years ago - will be great to get some insight from others who have much more experience than me!

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Unknown userMember23 Oct 2018, 7:45 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

It sounds like it can be quite a hard time to work through negative experiences with health professionals - @Stacey_N how do you manage to keep trying and keep reaching out when these experiences have happened??

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Unknown userMember23 Oct 2018, 7:46 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Welcome @EK1!

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Never_Lose_HopeCasual Contributor23 Oct 2018, 7:46 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Thank You @Former-Member
Sometimes finding the right words is difficult as it all seems so overwhelming for them both. Trying to give hope when there are so many uncertainties is difficult.

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EK1Contributor23 Oct 2018, 7:48 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Thank you @ Lauz - it's great to be able to be a part of a discussion in what can be a very lonely world - I don't know anyone else who has a loved one with BPD so this will be very helpful for me tonight

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Stacey_NContributor23 Oct 2018, 7:49 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

@Never_Lose_Hope

It really took us down a wasted path as the treatment my husband received was not of any benefit. It was very basic, not beneficial to the complexity of BPD. I hear from so many people that the help professionals won't listen. We have the best understanding of our loved one, what their symptoms are, when it's turning into a crisis etc. I don't know whether it has anything to do with confidentiality but it is very frustrating and often listening to the carer could prevent a crisis situation.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor23 Oct 2018, 7:49 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

hello @Stacey_N

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DeterminedSenior Contributor23 Oct 2018, 7:49 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting Your Partner Experiencing BPD // Tues 23 Oct, 7pm AEDT

@Stacey_N my darling was told to leave me by her then psychiatrist as I was the source of all of her problems,

A psychologist I was seeing told me to leave my darling as she was the source of all my problems. When I said that was never going to happen and the reason I was there was to get some support so I could better support my darling he told me he could not help me and that was the end of that. I never went back to anyone until after a complete burnout, something I still have not recovered from years later.

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