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oceangirlSenior Contributor
I thought it was a good title to start a discussion with other members. I am feeling really irriratable of late. I am worried my depression is on its way back. I have to look at ways at managing and expressing my feelings. Its so hard to get the words out and to express what is happening for me.
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
@Shaz51 I have tried doing a pro's and con's list. Its still not easier to come to a decision. My surgeon has mainly talked about a leak and its very tiny risk 0.3%. There are other risks too. What worries is not so much the acute risk but chronic long term problems such as reflux. On the other hand some people get no complications. Research can not always be accurate. Reflex ranges from 9% to 20% per patient that is sleeved. I know there is medication for this but I am not a tablet person and I wouldn't want to have further sugery or have my sleeve converted to a bypass. The reason for the caution with the reflux is that its quite uncomfortable and does impact your quality of life and medication can also cause other medical problems. That being said most people I have spoken to have and have said its the best thing they have ever done. Your thoughts ???
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
No problem at all @outlander
Thank you so much for reading along and taking your time to give a thoughtful and caring response.
I have basically done everything in terms of losing weight. I have seen a dietitian and EP. I did lose quite a big of weight but unfortuntely I put quite a bit back on last year and the start of this year. I am not back to my original weight, which I think is good.Not sure exactly why but a combination of things.In terms of dieting and possibility of the yo- yo effect that apparently affects you both physically and mentally. I think its more that my depression & anxiety became worse last year.
I know weight loss surgery is not the solution but gives a helping hand. Its a tool to reduce food input(cal) and thus lose weight. I still have to make these changes either if I don't have the surgery. I think the unknow is scaring me because I don't know what is going to happen. Its all the what ifs, and if I can manage or cope if something goes wrong. My plan was to the have surgery, and spend time there recovering, and then going to be admitted for my depression at another hospital, and also to give me support in recovering from my surgery.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
Hi @outlander @Shaz51 @BlueBells @MDT @Faith-and-Hope
I'm just taking it easy this afternoon, I went to uni this morning to get my textbooks. I am still recovering from my surgery on the 14th Feb, I am day 11 PO.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
Its good to hear from you too @MDT . I'm studying nursing. I hope you have a great night.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
I hope you are recovering well now @oceangirl . You have been in my thoughts.
Was it exciting to be picking up your books ? I have my art materials now ..... really cool 😎 👍💕
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
@Faith-and-Hope My recovery has been smooth except for the nausea and vomiting for the first four days but really improved from day 4 to 5 and I came home day 7- which was last Thursday.
I am bit unsure to start off tomorrow, but I know I will be happy once I get back into a routine. I'm still only on full liquids and I start my puree diet later this week, and I will be on that for two weeks.
Glad to hear you got all your materials, I did some online activties this afternoon. And I am about to feed Milo and Kira...
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
All the best with it @oceangirl 💕
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