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Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember18 June 2018, 2:50 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Life throws up a range of stressors that can impact us is unique ways. Discomfort isn’t generally something we like to feel so when those strong emotions come along, it can be hard to know what to do to manage.

Distress tolerance is all about learning how to deal with strong emotions. So join us, to answer the question, “how do you cope when you feel like you can’t?”

Share your experiences of coping with uncomfortable emotions. What works? What doesn’t? And what would you like to do more of to support you on your recovery journey? 🐼

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Sans911Senior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:03 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

I have found what really helps to identify my emotions is by keeping a DBT or mood diary. This is a really great way to identify not only my moods but when they occur, what they are triggered by and patterns in my moods.

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MoonGalSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:03 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Get well soon @BlueBay. Good self care there.

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Swisschoc1Casual Contributor17 July 2018, 8:03 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

I avoid conflict because I can't handle the distress it causes me.

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Unknown userMember17 July 2018, 8:04 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

That's no problem at all @BlueBay Sounds like a good decision to take some time out and get a bit of rest. Thanks for joining in and I do hope you're feeling better soon.

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utopiaSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:04 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

@MoonGal - yes walking or dancing - might be the after care - once I am through the distress.

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AdgeSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:05 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Yes, thanks for the refresher on Mindfulness @Former-Member

It's a work in progress.

I'm aware of the concepts - but still get caught up in the emotions, although perhaps less intensely.

The Struggle Switch link video was really good. I've seen it before (can't remember when).

Adge

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Zoe7Senior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:06 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Keeping a mood or DBT jounal is a great way to see patterns and to be able to head off potentially triggering days/events if possible @Sans911

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Sans911Senior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:07 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

@Swisschoc1

Don't you find by avoiding conflict, although it decreases your distress, it can leave feeling cheated, disatistified and unheard? How then do you get your point across or have your feelings acknowledged?

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MoonGalSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:07 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

@utopia I was thinking about the kind of situations that are people provoked, where I might be WITH someone else who has caused (or my reaction has caused) my distress and not wanting to be any odder than I already am by suddenly leaving to run, walk or dance! Maybe though if the distress is happening alone, it might be good to get into your body straight away, and have your body lead the way OUT of the distress. that would take practice and need some of those skills others have mentioned like breathing, STOP, etc.

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Unknown userMember17 July 2018, 8:07 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

What a great strategy @CheerBear I also like your use of language there. Sometimes it can be worth asking ourselves, how do I notice when I need to put the breaks on? How can I effectively do that to avoid getting caught up in distress?

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