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Right. I am sure every one of us struggles with various aspects of life, one being physical strength and looking after ourselves.
I know I am feeling like a weather baloon in an El Nino weather event, large and unpredictable. I am unhappy with my weight since being desexed and being on an anti-psychotic which has me feeling hungry all the time and has changed my metabolism. I have gained a lot of weight, already have a back injury and live with chronic sensistised pain syndrome. I MUST start a do-able exercise regime. Gentley Bently.
I know goal setting is important, start small, short. Have longer term goals also important. I have decided to NOT have weight loss as one of my goals per se. Just concentrate on doing the exercise every day. I find it hard to account just to "myself" - if I am under supervision of a physio or psych I tend to do what I set out to do, like having someone to check back in with and 'report' to is important otherwise I shuffle off into "i don;' want to" or "it hurt once so never again" land.
Having given it much thought about what is doabale, what I SHOULD try to tackle without going totally overboard and extreme... And doing myself in before I acheive even a tiny modicum of self-care...
My plan is this.
Days 1 to 14 (next two weeks) Jan 7 to Jan 19 - 15 Minutes a day excercise (plus 15 min walk) 2 days a week in pool (15 mins only) doing hydro exercises and a very small and short swim breast stroke to look after my shoulders. 5 days a week doing a 15 minute Qi Gong set (I learned Qi Gong about 10 years ago and have just found the best little 15 minute Qi Gong video to 'follow" along with. 15 minute walk ever day (slow and shuffley though it might be.)
Days 15 to 30 (Jan 20 to Feb 2) 20 Minutes a day excercise (plus 15 min walk) Same as above but for 20 minutes for each exercise. Celebration goal on 2nd February.... Buy a new top.
Next Goals to be advised to make sure I get these ones done. Wish me luck and focus!
If you hate the exercise you are trying to do, or if you get no pleasure from it, then it's much more difficult to stick with it.
Find things you enjoy in your exercise, and it stops feeling like work or a chore or something you "have to do" (rolls eyes)...
I love walking. Taking different paths. Smiling or nodding at people. Watching birds and people walking their dogs. Enjoying the weather and ever-changing scenery.
It becomes pleasurable and, dare I say it, also an exercise in Mindfulness. Then it is two good things I've done for myself at once - physical exercise AND relaxing calming meditation...
Win-win...
It's about reshaping our thinking about things. You don't need motivation to do something you enjoy...
That's why depression sucks so much. You've gotta push through the lack of pleasure in anything. Push push push... or wallow.
I've done lots of wallowing in my life. Sometimes it was needed. Other times, it needed to be challenged and pushed through with grit and determination... not easy, but necessary...
I have done a minimum of 15 pushups every day for a couple of months now. I skipped a few days here and there when starting, but I didn't let that deter me. Don't give up. Stick with it.
Now it's a habit. I miss doing the pushups if I don't do them. There's no motivation required. I just do them.
I like that my flabby a-cup man-boobies are now slightly less flabby a-cup man-boobies... hahaha...
[Sqwaaaarkkk!]
Damn you, Cyril...
Silly parrot, pooping on my shoulder...
Huggles peeps... 🙂
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BlueBaySenior Contributor
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@Silenus
You will be happy to read that I went for a walk today with the dog down the beach. It is windy and cold but i loved it. I loved feeling the cold sea air on my face and my hair blowing everywhere (not a good look but i don't care!!)
And now I am home and I am so glad i did go for a walk, and so is my kelpie dog. She is even more happier 🙂
If I can keep doing this daily even in winter it will increase my motivation. Thank you for your post and suggestions. 🙂
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SilenusSenior Contributor
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That is truly a joy to hear @BlueBay !!!
And a great big win!!!
Congrats. I know from past experience how difficult it can be to break through depression. This is a very empowering thing you have done.
You've made my day, @BlueBay🙂
Wooohoooooo.... 🙂
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BlueBaySenior Contributor
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@Silenus I can picture you with a big smile 🙂 while you were reading my post.
I will try my hardest to walk daily, it will be my goal to walk daily but if i don't i won't beat myself up.
i need someone to keep a track on my goal of walking. i need motivation.
Glad i have made your day:)
I might even go for another walk later this afternoon. Sometimes it's easier to walk in the cold because you warm up while walking and that cold air hitting my face - it's so refreshing.
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Angels333Senior Contributor
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So I'm heading back to yoga after my stint of health issues. I have gained 20kg's from meds and Ibam worried I'll never loose it.
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
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Hi @BlueBay, really fantastic to her you got yourself out for a walk and enjoyed it so much! Well done!
Went to hydrotherapy yesterday for the first time ever. At the time it feels gentle but I think it's probably more of a workout than it seems. I could feel the endorphins pleasurably relaxing the body afterwards. Five more weeks of it to go.
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SilenusSenior Contributor
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That's great @Mazarita!
I guess it makes sense that it's more of a workout than you think - you're moving your body through something a lot thicker than air, with the added bonus that it's gentle on your joints. What a great form of exercise.
Did you enjoy it? Was it fun? I remember years ago, I used to swim a couple of kms in the local outdoor heated olympic-size pool 3 or 4 mornings per week. There was an aquarobics class, and they all seemed to be having a ball, with the music going, chatting away to each other as they exercised...
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BlueBaySenior Contributor
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OK so I didn't go for my second walk yesterday. After my phone call from my therapist telling me she is no longer able to see me, I hibernated inside and cried 😞
Hoping tonight after tea I can go for a walk. At least I went for one walk, but see that's where the disappointment comes in. Maybe i shouldn't say I am going for a second walk and if I do I do and if not then it doesn't matter. Why am i so hard on myself??
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
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Thanks @Silenus🙂 I did enjoy it, though I wouldn't quite go as far as 'fun'. But it was good to catch up with a previous support worker. We chatted in the pool and when she was giving me a lift home. She and I got on particularly well when she was supporting me for about six weeks at the end of last year. Social anxiety lurking around me with the rest of the group but as usual I put on a pretty good face. Part of doing these group activities is to challenge that social anxiety so it doesn't keep me so cooped up in the flat and living on the computer. The challenge today is to get myself to ukelele class in a couple of hours.
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SilenusSenior Contributor
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Hi @BlueBay🙂
Focus on how good you felt going for that walk. That is real. It is "what is"...
Feeling bad about not going for a walk... that is a thing to be observed within yourself. Study it. Where is it from? Why feel bad at all? Look within yourself with an enquiring inner eye and ear. Listen to the chatter of your thoughts. Feel your emotions. See if one is responsible for the other. Observe, and seek insight into what is happening...
I know the feeling - that feeling bad feeling that comes from doing or not doing something...
The disappointment. The frustration. The anger at myself for not being better, for breaking a promise to myself...
You feel bad. Then you catch yourself feeling bad. Then you start feeling bad about feeling bad...
It feeds into itself, and it's a situation that we have created for ourselves out of thin air...
Focus on how good it felt going for that walk. That is real. It is "what is"...
Then, if you go for another walk, focus on how good it feels going for that walk... 🙂
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