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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
For a while I have tried to find a thread I had started when I joined the forum that could be a "home" thread for me.
Being busy about the forum has been a coping style, where I can acknowledge all my different life experiences that had been silenced. Possibly do some good and prevent things from getting worse. Like the little boy with the finger in the dyke.
Feeling fragile
Needing Nurture
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
Dearest @Appleblossom
I am so walking with you @Appleblossom
How is your daughter ?
I think the worst time for me - with my wonderful sons
I'm upfront - I was struggling for being scapegoat.
They both blame me for problems with their father - it was/is very tough.
think the worst time for me -- and is-- is that both sons blaming me for upbringing.
I paid thousands for therapy and tutoring for when they were at school.
I wasn't present
Both my sons - I truly believe love me. My therapist spoke to my youngest son the other day - she came to my wedding : only stayed to see me getting married then raced off .... She says he loves me.
She says it's going to take years for them to trust me again because of mum taking them away from me when they both turned 15.
I think the real help for me has been trauma therapy. I did Judith Richards trauma therapy.
Because of my head injury, I'm still in therapy. But you don't need to be after trauma therapy.it suited me everyone's different.
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
Lovely to hear from you @outlander
Are you still on the thread for us older people ? 🤠🤓
I'm physically sick - all is being dealt with. I gave someone $50 to come here this morning to vacuum do dishes.
So being spoilt a bit this morning.
Anything fun happening for you ?
😁🌿🍃☘️🌱
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outlanderSenior Contributor
im still on that thread @PeppyPatti we can chat there if you like?
im sorry your not feeling well but im glad you had some help with housework.
ive just gotten home from hospital after a surgery so nothing to exciting for me till i recover more.
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Emelia8Senior Contributor
@Appleblossom 💕🌸💮
@PeppyPatti ❤️🌺
@outlander 💖💐
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Thanks @PeppyPatti
My daughter is doing relatively well for herself. Edited
Thanks for being there for me.
@Shaz51 @tyme @outlander @Emelia8
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tymeModerator
Awww @Appleblossom , I'm so so sorry. I can see how hard that is for you. I dont have any answers, but I want you to know that I'm sitting with you.
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
Dearest Apple 🍏 🍎 ❣️🌱
@Appleblossom
I am so sorry this has happened for you. Sweetheart. So sad. Losing a child.
You keep up your very intelligent and caring self online through all of this.
Incredible.
My heart is always with you, write to me I will always be here for you,
☘️💖💕
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Emelia8Senior Contributor
That's so so hard @Appleblossom heartbreaking to hear 💔 Life can be so unfair to the absolute best people. You've done so well to ride out the many torrid storms in your life. And still be the beautiful person you are today. 🌸
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Thank you @tyme @Emelia8 and
@PeppyPatti I just had to find ways to keep going for my son. Yes, it is a loss
My biological daughter works extremely hard. Yes I kept doing the practical work as well.
I also did not want to exist in misery, so I keep yearning and reaching for the stars.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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