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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
For a while I have tried to find a thread I had started when I joined the forum that could be a "home" thread for me.
Being busy about the forum has been a coping style, where I can acknowledge all my different life experiences that had been silenced. Possibly do some good and prevent things from getting worse. Like the little boy with the finger in the dyke.
Feeling fragile
Needing Nurture
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
I remember that @Shaz51
❤️💖 @Appleblossom @Emelia8 @tyme
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Thank you @Emelia8
@Shaz51 @PeppyPatti @outlander @tyme
Need to find a way to honour my journey.
you have all helped a lot
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tymeModerator
@Appleblossom , are you okay? Is there anything we can help you with?
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tymeModerator
Hey @Emelia8 , I'll do my best and let you know how she goes. Thanks so much for the doggy tips!
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
You being you … helps @tyme
I have to accept the unthinkable, the saddest situation regarding my daughter… not sure if it’s karma or just my life’s work… without blame …but still what is necessary
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tymeModerator
Hey @Appleblossom , it sounds so so hard for you right now. If you ever feel like talking about it, please know we are here.
Despite having to accept things as they are, it doesn't mean you are not impacted. It's a sense of loss, despair and perhaps numbness?
Hugs to you Apple
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Hey lovely @outlander
also cooee
@PeppyPatti @Emelia8 @Shaz51
@tyme
it is about accepting my family with a sense of reality. I can go into rose coloured glasses little girl, The consequences of adverse life events hasn’t been properly addressed for my childhood and then the deaths during early adulthood and now accepting my son’s and daughter’s situations. Yes it is inter generational trauma. That acknowledgment “should” have lead to a general unpacking, putting in context, sharing, healing….Even the professionals don’t really make sense of it. Eg my shrink was talking about my son crying but I don’t think he really gets it as my son really does not cry. He has huge sensitivity but more and more wanting to project strength. Maybe it is those endless projections as we try and grapple with our human condition.
A lot of blame is on me for circumstances well and truly out of my control. Gobsmackingly. I did my best throughout my life but feeling pretty worthless. Yes. More loss and despair. Trying not to self whip too much.
I am rostered on to play for Good Friday and have lots of commitments to keep me going. But low energy. People seem to want lots of positive energy to prove everything is alright and I don’t seem to be able to do that.
keeping gently bently has taken all my dedication, resolve and available resources. I do make jokes more, but they are quiet and involve wordplay.
thanks for caring @tyme
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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