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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
For a while I have tried to find a thread I had started when I joined the forum that could be a "home" thread for me.
Being busy about the forum has been a coping style, where I can acknowledge all my different life experiences that had been silenced. Possibly do some good and prevent things from getting worse. Like the little boy with the finger in the dyke.
Feeling fragile
Needing Nurture
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
Yes. You are intuitive and empathetic re- my youngest son.
His first issue is he dislikes himself. Three days ago my partner went to his work and gave him his birthday present - an AcDc photograph autographed by 2 of the band members.
He wrote once to thank me and today write he would like a coffee.
My situation is definately not the worst story out there..... I just feel very sad he's wasted 4 years in self hatred.
He has many good friends who gather around him and care for him.
your message has helped me. Thank you.
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TABSenior Contributor
um was covid like 3 years ago living life of Reilly in boulder in 2 br 100yo house w half decent aircon, half stuffed wood heater 535liter fridge freezer, beaut bath, ok lounge, good bed, car, backyard, verandah sat under. was on covid dole, sick of work so wasnt.
then father in SA died (mother died like5 years earlier) While interstate for funeral landlord rings and says selling place. so massive probs with cleaning up, cleaning up yard, had to sell heaps and heaps of stuff not long bought in covid-dole internet spending spree..
went back to caravan park in kelm (perth) (devil you know) hung out there few months, neighbours got rougher and rougher, homeless camps started appearing etc, eventually got $ in bank fm estate around xmas 2022 think perth was too dear for me to buy . had $250k didnt want to spend the lot. got house in country SA $150k been here since. @PeppyPatti now trying to deal w health issues and halfway through cert IV TAE 40122 now so will be working again next year hopefully after having barely worked in prev 2-3 years
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
Reflecting Kelmscott - isn't Gosnells nearby ? I had a boyfriend living in Gosnells back in the day .......terrifying . ......
But there were very very nice people living there too ....just the caravan park & that.....
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
Dear @creative_writer
Look at me I'm grabbing you for support I'll let go.
It more like grief for me. because when I offer this to him my Mum will interfere and attempt to stop it. I'll need to speak to my therapist about how to or when I can offer the trauma therapy to him ...... safely if I can.
What I get from Sane forums is being present and self care.
I truly believe in about 2 years I'll be able to do my honours ....... It's weird studying is so exciting but I only remember exhaustion after handing in a damn assignment lol 😆
In Psychotherapy - iv noticed if you stop reading - ya kind of lose it. Because I'm not a practicing psychotherapist. The books
" Narcissism, by Neville Symington
" words to say it," by Marie Cardinal is an eye opener.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
This is exactly what my psychotherapist is going to say. I won't do anything unless iv got all this sorted ....
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
Hi @TAB
Was it awesome just uprooting from Perth and permanently moving to SA ??
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TABSenior Contributor
yes and no @PeppyPatti its closer to go to brother in canberra , who still ignores me unless I push things. sister not talking as is the norm last 13 years now, so dont really have more social contacts vs None in WA lol
also regional centre near here doesnt even have heated 25m pool (14m WTAF) no bunnings no stratco, no good guys ok bit minor, and town moved to is a lot like Stepford Wives . when at home and inside, I could be anywhere, so rather be here lol
anyway , orig plan was to go to adel once a month to swim in real pool, get massage, see friend, but study sort of got in the way of that.I go there once a fortnight, but want to go straight home after.
..so yeah. ups and downs.
was from SA originally been back 12mths now. b4 that last 10 years 90% in WA, last 15years mostly WA actually but was coming and going til 10 ish years ago.
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