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Living with Ourselves

Living with Ourselves

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First of all I wanted to let you know that I have conversed with all of you at some stage on both sides of the forum..

It was my intention to close two of my threads and change my name in the kindest way for all of you...

I commenced this process on the 12th March and today is the first day that I have access to actually post or respond to anyone....I was in the last couple of days able to register a new name and like some posts...

I am so sorry that my profile ended so abruptly that was definitely not my intention....

In fact if I had done it my way.. instead of thinking would be better to be guided through the process....I would have just written on one of my threads my reason for closing my account tagging you all in....then requested account to be closed and username put to bed so to speak

I have chosen to take this path in order to protect my family's sense of safety .. privacy...health..

Please let me reassure you that this has nothing to do with any members on here...

I have tagged each and everyone of you because you have given me support and invited me into a little of your worlds...priceless experiences...I have felt heard and valued on here....Thank you all so much..

Moving forward ...this is who I am now and hope to be able to converse on the forum living in the now not the past...therefore no mention of my previous username necessary...

If you do not know who I am...that is fine also...perhaps all of the above is not relevant for you..

take care

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Sorry @tonys was having crisis & you took the blow. Please disregard. Sorry, to you & SANE. I wish you peace.

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Hi there @tonys!

Just jumping in to confirm that we do indeed keep our Forums a safe and anonymous space by removing any personal information, such as phone numbers, if it happens to be posted.

We are very much committed to keeping everyone anonymous 😊

We will also remove any of the following:

  • your name
  • your addresses - postal or email
  • your member names on other social media services
  • the name of your workplace, uni or school
  • any other information by which you could be identified in real life

I hope this clarifies things!

Kind regards

Peregrinefalcon

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Hello @tonys

Stay safe please.

You are valued.

The forums can become stressful and overheated.

You have done nothing wrong in opening up.

That is honesty and being you.

All of us have to look after our own reactions and selves.

Sometimes we need time out or help from the real world.

Please stay in touch with Sane staff.

Remember the submarine that you sent me.

I have had it sent back on a huge carrier.

Waiting for you to board with everything that you need ready for you.

An opportunity to submerge safely and know that you still have friends on here.

I will leave you to have time out and respect your space.

I do not want you to stay away from Sane help though.

You do not have to post on the forums.

Speak or email Sane please.

You deserve this as you have given so much to others.

Your friend Sophia 1

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Hello @tonys

I have been looking out for your periscope as you did with mine.

Spotted it when you were ready in your time.

Thank you for the signal.

Can be very difficult to send when feeling mesmerized as you described.

So much appreciated.

Stay safe

Send a signal only when and if you feel able to.

The choice is yours my friend not mine.

My true friends are still there in my world even when we are not communicating.

Your friend

Sophia1

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Dear @Sophia1

I held your sharing about your son quietly in my heart.

I did not respond as I did not know what could help, but I did care, and I have felt those terrible sufferings when people we love are in crisis, eg my son, sister and my brothers, even my mother and father. None of us can ever really walk in another shoes with all the intricacies of life and especially family life. Sometimes words do not justice to the situation and so I hold SILENCE in a kind of prayer.

I noticed you a few minutes ago back online and was so happy to see you and thought I would wander over here to your home base thread.

Crises seem to be everywhere sometimes. Its hard, and all we can do is our BEST. I feel deeply you always try to do that.

On another note, I had a lovely call yesterday from an old piano student/friend. It really warmed my heart, as we shared a lot but she moved away 7 years ago. I feel we have transitioned from the professional relationship to a friendship. She also taught adults in another field, yoga, so we both try and tread carefully.

Love to you

Apple

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@Sophia1 thankyou so much Sophia. Yes from time to time we have tossed each other life jackets and this one was very much needed.

I didnt really know what i was joining when i signed up, I came with a stoop and an old coat and now, I'm wearing a brand new one made out of all the wonderful letters of support , tolerance, and understanding....... I Tried to send my little stories, to where i thought they could most offer a bit of, escape, cheer , different view , or simply friendship, and in doing so

have let go a bit of the pain i carry inside, learnt new skills, 'even emojis"

So i'm not one to give up on Reliable people giving me reliable friendship, i haven't been spoilt when it comes to friends, The few i have know I'm solid when I'm needed.

Stability in friend ship has always been paramount in the friendship, trust, relationships and even in your darkest times , You have never put me at unease with unpredictable correspondence and i cant thank you enough for that.

When I'm absent from time to time, Its farm , health, or crook internet....

My imagination or revelations may portray me in different lights at times but the intent is always to help. I am actually a pretty stable fella, and respond to same.

So the short version, thanks for the stability in our friendship, I have just enough maturity not to abandon something thats helping me and........... i will take my floggings and and hope new friendships are to be found.

Thanks again tonys moon base one.

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@tonys

Good to "see" you around.

I think you are a gem; a rough diamond at times, but also incredibly sensitive, wise, and heartfelt and funny. Reaching out with a wisdom grounded in earthly farming and blokeyness with heart.

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Ooooh @maddison

Feeling your fragility and vulnerability and womanly strength and passion.

The battle of the sexes and men are from mars women from venus seems to be an endless convoluted dance with many misunderstandings and strong feelings. I have lived in 2 areas known for street walkers ... one as a child and one as an adult ... it is a complex reality.

https://theculturetrip.com/europe/spain/articles/10-traditional-spanish-dances-you-should-know-about/

Wondering if more dance imagery can help ... Fiery and sensual ... can be a natural part of us all.

Its hard when many people are experiencing different crises at the same time, things go off in all directions. I love your contributions in the forum. Take Care of YOU.

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Thankyou very much, @Peregrinefalcon for your quick response, Know you must be busy.

Computor dummies like me are fertile ground for for clever people and i have had my email address and phone number hijacked before. Fortunately Im not smart enough to bank and shop online..... But some people find joy in other mischief,

Not knowing what a " community guide" is, when i saw the phone number letter , i had a panic melt down, wondering if people that work for sane had access.... etc etc

I changed my phone number , and , well I shall just trust that the people that run the show,

keep the keys well hidden.

While Ive got you , i would like to thank you for all the good will and help you provide.

I don't have the wing span of a peregrine falcon, but, thanks to you guys, i have been able to sprout a couple of feathers.

Keep on circling Tonys mb1

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@Appleblossom hey there , and thankyou. Coming from any one thats a very nice compliment. From you.... Its really big, I think you know the streets, the places, and institutions that shaped me, Carrying the weight, ..... another day.

Any way I really hope you are enjoying the day, and the seasons are kind to your gardens.

Tractor is giving me a impatient look.

Very best wishes.......... tonys MB1

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