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Living with Ourselves

Living with Ourselves

hello @eudemonism @eth @outlander @Bunniekins @Mazarita @Silenus @NameUnknown @Grasshopper3 @patientpatient @soul @Former-Member @Determined @Shaz51 @Former-Member @Friendconnect @Teej @utopia @Queenie @Appleblossom @Zam @perseverer @Janna @Owlunar @Former-Member @Former-Member

First of all I wanted to let you know that I have conversed with all of you at some stage on both sides of the forum..

It was my intention to close two of my threads and change my name in the kindest way for all of you...

I commenced this process on the 12th March and today is the first day that I have access to actually post or respond to anyone....I was in the last couple of days able to register a new name and like some posts...

I am so sorry that my profile ended so abruptly that was definitely not my intention....

In fact if I had done it my way.. instead of thinking would be better to be guided through the process....I would have just written on one of my threads my reason for closing my account tagging you all in....then requested account to be closed and username put to bed so to speak

I have chosen to take this path in order to protect my family's sense of safety .. privacy...health..

Please let me reassure you that this has nothing to do with any members on here...

I have tagged each and everyone of you because you have given me support and invited me into a little of your worlds...priceless experiences...I have felt heard and valued on here....Thank you all so much..

Moving forward ...this is who I am now and hope to be able to converse on the forum living in the now not the past...therefore no mention of my previous username necessary...

If you do not know who I am...that is fine also...perhaps all of the above is not relevant for you..

take care

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Hello @Oaktree and @Sophia1

Thankyou Meggle, for the lovely sentiments. I am very pleased that we are able to correspond with each other in ways that we find are helpful for ourselves and each other. And likewise, there are times and people with whom there is a special connection.

And Sophia, I enjoy our interactions and am so thankful that you and I can also, I believe, consider each other friends.

Thank You Both

With Best Wishes

@HenryX

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Lovely @HenryX

Thank you for such lovely sentiments.

Yes I do see you as a friend along with @Oaktree and several others......

I know that It has been written by myself and so many others the wonder of acceptance of individuals in this virtual world where it should be in the real world..

I do have real world friends as well as Carer friends...

I am only now able to discuss a little of my situation..

I also helped a complete stranger outside my home whom looked unwell

I stayed with her and offered her a hot drink or water..she only wanted company. She sat on my steps her allowing me to put my arm around her. ... Even though I reassured her that she need not talk .. I learnt that she needed to .. was unable to with her loving family.. She opened up to me crying at the same time. We stayed together for a while.. we are friends now. I ring her. She pops in to see me when visiting a family member who lives close by. We laugh we cry.. we are so similar.. she brings renewal... hope...love. A strange world we live in..

Take care dear friends. Xx

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Hello @outlander I hope that you have some good health results around your foot for a start

I imagine you will have to see a nutritionist or health dietician re foods etc that will not upset your system.
Hard to get used to at first.. You will adapt and there are many choices available keeping those restrictions ln mind. I know a few people with dietary issues ..

let me know how you are if you have the time. Xx

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Hello @Sophia1

A lovely reciprocal interaction, again with mutual care and reward.

I believe that I can understand the support that you offer and receive, and with a friendship developed also.

Best Wishes

@HenryX

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Afternoon @Sophia1

How are you today xx

How lovely developing a friendship, I miss my real life friendship, we have not had a cuppa together for years

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Hello @Shaz51

You miss your real life friendship does that mean that they have passed away or moved away?

Either way the fact is that you miss them....Friendships are a very important part of our life which I think that many of us do not realise as children...teenagers .....even adults in our lives before we settle down with a person...

When settling down....what a dreadful term...

When starting a new life together sounds better doesn't it.....

We gain new family.....some we do not want laugh....comes with the new love....

Much of our time is often taken up with our love and extended family...

We form new friendships within the new area where we live....or through our own children.....so on ....so on..

reflecting on past or lost friends can make us feel sad....

I have friends whom I only speak to over the phone occasionally as I have moved into the hills quite some distance away.....they do not like travelling up here.....I am not able to at the moment travel down there...

stress ...grief....all can take control stopping me...

Add in busy caring for different people as in your life.....not much free time...

sometimes we just need to make the time....

I keep telling myself that....procrastinating....

The fact that you miss your friend tells you that they were important to you and you to them.....the love is still there even though you are not able to see each other...

perhaps your feeling is telling you something....

or perhaps you just miss them....simple as that

love Sophia 1

💛 a yellow heart for sunshine and friendship xxx

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Hello @Sophia1

It is strange friendships as with my friend , our birthdays are 2 days apart

I looked after her 3 boys and been in touch , live in the same town but now we are on different pathways now

We play word games on the computer over the internet and we text each other now and again

Our children are all grown up now ❤❤

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Hello @Shaz51

A lovely friendship...looking after her three boys....

Do you see the boys around the town and do they remember you?

Something else flashed across my mind......

I wonder if your friend might have the same thought as you at times...

It only takes one of you to make the call and ask the question...

If the answer is no.....it does not change the friendship that you had in that time frame....

It just means that the person has changed...

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Thank you my friend xx @Sophia1

My friend does feel the same way I am sure because if we bump into each other, we have a hug

Ohh yes the boys have children now and remembers me xx

I saw your words in the worry thread , you can show me where you are worried or we can talk about other things xx

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thanbk you @Shaz51

I appreciate your offer of help and support so much..

You really are a lovely, genuine, sincere person.

I am so glad that I have you in my forum life...

i know that I would definitely have you as a friend in real life....both you and mr shaz...

I am in a bad way today

husband and mine anniversary and I am trying to calm myself now before he comes home..

I do not want to upset him by him seeing me upset...

I know you understand that part..

I will lay down and have a rest I think.

Have had very little sleep for last few nights..

son ringing constantly and delusions are stronger as well as increasing...

I need a break from it.....

Thank you again 💜

I have never been good at accepting help only offering help for others xxxx

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