Living with Ourselves

I hear you @Sophia1

I'm sorry your struggling. I find those triggering as well as honestly have so much admiration for you for trying to reach out to the mother. It's more than I could do. Thank you for your kindness as always @outlander and for being here with Sophia.

I have been asleep and just woke from couch to move to bed so heavy eyes. Hugs to both of you 🤗🤗

Hello @Sophia1

and @outlander @Anastasia @Clawde @Appleblossom

I know Sophia, that you have said that you intend requesting deletion of your recent posts. If it is not too distressing for you, or the cause of feeling vulnerable through disclosure, or somehow, affecting your son, it may be helpful for others to have some idea of what you have experienced and spoken of in your recent posts.

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My thoughts are that what you have expressed validates what others may also experience, and in that way allow others to feel less alone.

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I am aware that the period of time that our posts have, in terms of relevance, may seem fairly short. When we are letting others know of where we are at, we often only need to feel heard for a fairly short time anyway.

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However, I know that there are times that you and I have looked back through posts on other people's profiles. This can be about a person, so that we can get to know them better, or because of our present distress, we are looking for posts in our specific area of relevance and concern. There are also times when we may want to know more about a specific MI or symptoms. From my own experience, there are times when I have looked through profile posts for each of those reasons. Even looking back through my own posts for something that I have said or to which I have referred.

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For these reasons, unless leaving these posts causes you distress or concern, I believe it may at some time, for someone or others, be just what is needed in order for them to feel less alone.

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Obviously, all that I have said rests with respect for your feelings, concerns and dignity. Please receive my suggestions as just that.

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To reciprocate with words you have expressed toward me, sometime back, “I like you” and most sincerely respect your wishes and any concerns that you may have.

With My Very Best Wishes

@HenryX

Sorry @outlander

I was on computer earlier, then needed to get outside in garden.

We shall catch up at some time.

I am hard to catch on here as not consistent times.

Thank you for thinking of me as you do..

I do think of you...

❤💛💚

That is a lovely response

dear @HenryX

I am unsure as I am concerned that my son will find these posts.

He is an IT nerd (his terms this is how he likes to be referred as...beyond me...however...is about him and his choice)

Hence I have concerns that he might find my writing.

I wrote on this thread, without addressing to anyone, feeling that was the safest way temporarily.

Leaving the posts on this thread on lived experience, I do not think many carers in a similar predicament would find.

It might hold some relevance to some with lived experience. Unsure if again they would look here. Most seem to start new threads and gain connections that way.

Then again, my son does not conform in any way as I do not either really.

I do understand where you are coming from as, there was nothing like this or what is on carer side now available when I joined. Also that you consider, what I felt was just babble (old patterned thinking telling me so), worthy of leaving for others to read in the hope that it might help somewhat.

That is a compliment and I thank you.

I felt so very alone, estranged for so long.

Perhaps I could adapt the wording so as not to leave any trail.

Not capable of that at the moment.

For tonight, I do not have to make a decision.

Sophia1

Hello @Sophia1

I delete mine regularly, you click on "post options" a drop down will appear, click on edit post and then can manually edit/delete xox

sorry @Anastasia

mine does not have that choice in options

I just delete the emails.

computers and I are not friends laugh so no surprise that I cannot find it.

I have learnt to stop looking as many years of working with the blasted things breaking down came so close on many occasion to picking it up and throwing it through the window.

Thank you for help offer though after all of that laugh xx

thank you again @Clawde for your kind support

need to let you know how lovely and caring you are xx