Living with Ourselves

thank you @Maggie

sending you wishes for the same....

@Sophia1

walking wih you @Sophia1

Hi @Sophia1

I love everything you have posted here - please keep tagging me

One question that I always ask myself is why so many women have problems with seeing how valuable they are - somewhere through life they have been neglected emotionally and those words stick - and it is really hard to get past

My mother was into this - I could not please her - I got into a way of trying too hard - I found my way out of her trap after she died and I realised I had no need to have a lack of self-esteem - I had done positive things with my life but really didn't see that until she was out of the way

The words that have the most impact are those our mother says - and we hear her voice from before we were born -

This isn't true of all women - I must remember that - but there are so many women who just don't see their value

So I had plenty of time to write this - or rather think about writing it - my screen kept freezing - I turned the computer on and turned it off and turned it on and turned it off and finally I think I have rebooted enough

And here's my contribution

We are unique and worthwhile - it is worth celebratingWe need to practise being unique - it is wonderful being unique - it's really the only thing we all have in common

Dec

Hello @Owlunar

Yes the role of mother does have a lot to do with self esteem....

as does husband/partner...

I am past all of that now...

I have a loving husband who treats me with respect....My sister has told me that I am lucky to have found someone like that...I responded with yes I am ....he is lucky to have found someone like me...

So there it is in a nutshell....My self esteem is climbing back up..

The nasty...dreaded depression has started to lift....I have had more energy today...

I am still on alert though...

So pleased to read that you enjoy being on this thread....a very nice feeling....love having you here too as with others...

computers can be a pain in the proverbial....we are stuck with them for now...

Do you have a date for your trip yet?

You must be feeling more excited each day...

Take care

Sophia

Hello @Owlunar

Yes the role of mother does have a lot to do with self esteem....

as does husband/partner...

I am past all of that now...

I have a loving husband who treats me with respect....My sister has told me that I am lucky to have found someone like that...I responded with yes I am ....he is lucky to have found someone like me...

So there it is in a nutshell....My self esteem is climbing back up..

The nasty...dreaded depression has started to lift....I have had more energy today...

I am still on alert though...

So pleased to read that you enjoy being on this thread....a very nice feeling....love having you here too as with others...

computers can be a pain in the proverbial....we are stuck with them for now...

Do you have a date for your trip yet?

You must be feeling more excited each day...

Take care

Sophia

Hello @Shaz51

Thank you for the picture...

love the wink....

encourages me to smile....

I do hope that your medical issues are all being addressed now....providing you with some relief...

I have not been on the other thread ...hoping that your mum is more comfortable also...

Mr Shaz is settling hopefully also...

I read that he was taking photographs...great stuff

Sophia

Well that is me for today folks...

off to lay down....watch something that I have recorded....

thank you for your likes....

wishing all well in your worlds...as best as can be at the moment at least

Hi @Sophia1

I wasn't feeling depressed over the weekend but definitely flat and I blame the weather for that - and I am glad your depression is lifting - it's no fun at all being dragged back by our own selves - as if our own bodies are letting us down in some way

I finally got my ex to leave a long time ago now - nearly 30 years - and I was a different person after I finally moved out of the house - it is only a couple of blocks from where I live now and I went passed there last week - not my intention - the taxi-driver insisted on going that way though I wanted to go up a different street - I really don't like going passed the house even after all these years

My marriage was sad rather than bad - I think my ex was depressed and lost in some way - I will never know - I often wonder about him in a curious sort of way - if he was at all dissatified I have no idea of knowing how or why because he was so silent - he found it really hard to talk

There is something to be said for living with someone before marriage - how can we know what a person is like to live with until we share an establishment with them

It was was relief to start life on my own - I had a completely different social life from my ex - but getting separated and divorced and the property settlement is always messy and I was - still am - surprised at how nasty it all was - not my nature at all but we have to stick up for ourselves

We need to value ourselves - I do now and I am glad you have a husband who loves and respects you

I will be going away the week after next - I have a few things I must do before I go and I am looking forward to it - it will be great to get away from Melbourne weather for a few days

Dec

hugs @Sophia1, sitting with you xoxo