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@Former-Member It's pretty hard when I do eventually open up I remember what happened when I did prior then too a longgggg time ago. I was attacked!!! I am attacking everyone Hence my song the other day on a music thread.
I don't expect responses and I don't feel left left out I have made it this far on my own and hid what i have been through repetively at times. It does not matter what I do when I don't talk about it I am doing something wrong when I do talk about it I am doing something wrong again
Glad you have reconnected at least... Sorry you didn't have a tight bond when young. Yes they are at times...
Yes I did recieve an apology though the memory will never be forgotten @Zoe7
Consent is really important. I can see how now I was completely violated many times over from other people from not knowing what I do now but I am choosing to forgive myself slowly instead of punishing myself for every one else's doings and actions too
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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That is the ultimate in self-care @Former-Member - although you have nothing to forgive yourself for - what is done to you is not in any way your fault. I can see why it is so very important for you to teach your daughter how to protect herself and why you are so protective of her.
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Unknown userMember
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It's messed up how scars teach you more than not having them @Zoe7
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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My 'scars' have certainly shaped who I am now but also contiue to plague me every day @Former-Member - some days are harder than others and it is difficult to move on when so much of who we are is about what we have been through
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Unknown userMember
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I think some times we spend a life healing to be honest instead of living @Zoe7
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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I don't even feel like I am healing @Former-Member - still trying to survive
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Unknown userMember
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we spend our life working towards healing when most of it should never happened the way it has anyway.. just my take @Zoe7
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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I totally agree @Former-Member - right now I am not even at the point that I can accept what has happened and until I can do that I don't think much healing can occur - but I do have some hope now that I can move forward - even in a very small way
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Unknown userMember
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I know I am going forward too as much as I don't feel like it @Zoe7
I just feel like every single person spends their life hurt trying to heal about something. Feel like a little girl again some days learning about life.
My mind is deep today 🤦🏻♀️
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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I understand what you are saying @Former-Member - some days it feels like that - like we are that little girl trying to make sense of the world and hoping for a happy life - then we get hit with another setback!
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