My special place

Something will work out for me @Snowie and for you too. We’ll conquer this mh challenge.

No daylight saving here so I’m an hour behind you again for the next 6 months.

Thanks @Bow How are you?

Hopefully @Eve7

I didn't realise you didn't have day light savings. Still getting used to it being light at 7pm!

At least it's been a bit warmer.

@Snowie

All the hugs and 💛💛💛

I can imagine it would be super overwhelming. Do you find it’s more or less overwhelming being back at home? It’s nice that you and H could go for lunch and I’m really glad you’re taking a step back with your mum.

Hope that this evening is a nice one for you 💛

Good morning @Wintersweet

I think I would rather be home. My own bed, own surroundings.

Need to go to supermarket today but putting it off as it will be very busy. Should have gone early this morning.

How are you going? I hope today is kind to you 💗

@Snowie

Being in your own home, sleeping in your own bed, and with your own surroundings can be reassuring, can’t it?

Hope the shopping trip goes smoothly 💛

And thank you ☺️ My day has been mostly ok so far. Hope the rest of your day is kind to you.

Hi @Wintersweet

I think being at home can be more calming too. I know being in could probably help quicker, but I have a few things coming up I really need to be here for, one being my S's birthday.

I made it to the shops. H came so that made it a bit easier. Even better I didn't bump into anyone I knew!

I hope the rest of your day has been ok. Do you have a busy week ahead?

@Snowie

Well done for getting to the shops and yay are not bumping into anyone you know!

Hopefully having H know things are rough at the moment means a little bit more support to help you be safe at home in the lead up to those things you want to be at home for. 💛

My week is a little busy but I think the main thing will be focussing on using the kindest self-talk I can manage to get myself unstuck when I freeze rather to try and minimise the amount of time I spend in stressful anticipation of doing the thing.

You have a lot of appointments this week, right? I hope they go well 💛

It is easier with H knowing more @Wintersweet I have tried to encourage him to go to work, I don't want him to have to take time off because of me. I also need to be able to trust myself again by being home alone.

I hope the self-talk helps. Do you ever write things down? I have some little cards I made up with my psych that has positive self talk messages on them. They are small enough to fit into my bag so I take them almost everywhere with me. I use them to help remind myself of why I'm worth it.

Yes, a busy week with appts.

@Snowie

I love you framing being at home by yourself as an exercise in building self-trust. 💛 Does H have a day that he’s thinking he might go to work?

I do sometimes write things down though I try to make them nuanced so they acknowledge the challenge and encourage me to try anyway rather than just telling myself that it will all be fine.

I’m glad those cards help you. They sounds like a really useful tool. Do you have a favourite?

Hope the appointments go well. What days are they?