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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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I think she is finding all the assessments a bit much. -- they are @Former-Member, @Determined

they go and visit mum and ring mum up and tell her lots of things

and even one sent her a bill ??

she tells them that I do everything , and that she does not want some of the things they are suggesting

then they ring me and say that my mum is very confused about things

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Well things have gone pear shaped here.

Mum in law has gone back to hospital via ambulance. She was trying to hang out as Bro in law was on his way but left before he arrived 🙁

Waiting now for news.

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@Determined, . 😞

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@Determined 😢

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ohhhhhhhh @Determined sitting with you xx

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Wanted to wish all of my special friends here a happy Christmas and say how blessed and grateful I feel for your friendship and support. I trust you can all find some joy today. xo

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We are having family over for lunch here and after church this morning heading up to the hospital to visit Mum in law. Altering initially being told she could come home she will now be staying in hospital for the next couple of days at least 😕

I will be making more of an effort to be more present with my family so if I am not around it does not anything bad.

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@Determined .Thinking especially of you and yours today.

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Your family need you to be present Bro ... extra hugs might be the order of the day @Determined.

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Quick check in before bed

Has been a nice enough day with family all around while disappointing mum in law was not able to join us. Will visit her again in the morning. Have another family day tomorrow for siblings birthday. Leftovers for lunch and roast for dinner.

Trust everyone has had a nice day.

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