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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Good morning @Determined

Thinking especially of you this morning. Bouquet made from motorcycle parts.

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Thanks @Former-Member

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@Eja I support my wife (aka my darling) who lives with BPD, here is a thread where I talk about the ups and downs in the life of our family, I share her not only to 'unlaod' when things are getting on top of me but also in the hope that it may be a source of encouragement to others experiencing similar challanges, it is always helpful to know we are not alone. (Well it is for me anyway). Happy to lend an ear and support where I can. I trust you can find the support you need here on the forum,

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Hi @Determined - been following your story. Hope things are as good as can be. All the best for your assessment. I’ll bet you’re looking forward to a bit of a break. You certainly deserve it.

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Good luck with your exam today. Sending you positive vibes x @Determined

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Hi @Determined

Checking in Bro.

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PS. 'Onya @Determined 👍👍👍

(Community wrap)

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Thanks @Former-Member, community wrap was a pleasant supprise,

Just hanging on at the moment. One would think that I would be relieved now that assessment is over. Giving myself a couple of days to be lazy then into some serious exercise.

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Exercise is a good priority to have @Determined - going to be hot today so take it easy. A cooler change coming so that should be beneficial. Cycling and walking???

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It is soooo hot at the moment @soul

The plan for the last week has been to get up at 5am for a bike ride with Darling but have not been sleeping so have not managed to be up by 5am.

An after dinner walk is also on the agenda but we have been a bit later due to the heat and it is dark out at the moment. I have managed a couple of night walks in the moonlight and find that is still on the wish list.

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