Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

On the bright side looks Like insurance will let me keep my car (for $1500) as it is still drivable and road worthy and I should have enough change from the payout to get the bike I want and darling the oven she wants. So a blessing in disguise.

It still upsets me they won't fix it though. It is still a good car.

Who was it that said life wasn't meant to be easy? I don't think it was meant to be this hard either!

I know you probably don't feel it at the moment, but I really admire your way of looking at your life.

You are thinking you will fail this exam, but you still are looking on the brighter side by saying, well, at least I've already passed.

Sometimes when everything gets on top of you, you just need a bit to say to yourself, right, its not the plan, but I can do this. It mightn't be pretty, but ot will be done.

Hoping things are not so bad tomorrow for you x

@Determined

Sending ever so gentle thoughts your way.

Another positive for today

After not touching it in well over 12 months darling has dusted off her road (push) bike and serviced it and getting it and my bike ready so we can go riding together next week after my exams are over. Just hoping she can keep some balance this time round.

Really don't want to see her go back to doing 2-300 km per week as that was not healthy or sustainable. If she can do it for pleasure (she assures me that is all she wants now) then it will be great for her. She also now has our exercise equipment set up in the garage to work out with a friend.

Hoping this will give her something to focus on when things really start to go down hill with her mum.

Working hard at finding the positives at the moment as is so easy to dwell on the negatives and fall into that big black hole :face_with_rolling_eyes: it definatly helps.

@Determined

While finding things to be grateful for is often necessary Bro, here for you in your grief too.

Thanks @Former-Member

It makes a huge difference knowing that.

Hi @Determined, thinking of you, praying... lots going on for you atm.

Thanks @Smc,

How are things for you at the moment.

I am not being very successiful with keeping up with everyone at the moment but thinking of all my friends here.

Have just come back from one of my trips to my parents' place. This one was with Hubby and Sister, so we were able to bring back a heap of plants, books and a few other oddments. We need to talk with my parents' doctor about end of life preferences, particularly for Dad. With his dementia, he's not legally competent to "inform" them, but we well and truly know what his long held preferences are. It's all a kind of pre-grieving, so both Sister and I have been a bit sad at different times. I'm guessing you're in that place too. You're evidently pretty close to your MIL.

Older Daughter's reasonably stable for the moment. We had a slightly belated family birthday lunch today (I've successfully made it past the 50 mark-yay!) but it started with the somewhat disturbing thing of one of Daughter's "child alters" wanting to give me a birthday gift of a colouring in picture of a rose and a couple of chocolates. Well meant, sweet, and weird all at once. Lunch together was nice though. We went to an Irish pub that serves good food with pleasantly appropriate background music and decor.

@Smc mum in law has been my rock in so many ways.

She accepted my sister and I into their family long before darling and I were an item when we were living away from home at university. Since being married she has always been their for me through all of our ups and downs.

Glad to hear things are stable for your daughter and thinking of you as you process things with parents also.